Is this irresponsible?

Question

I have a beautiful wife and one night i got blind drunk when she was sober and decided to make a show of her in front of my little brother. I said to her ''get up and dance for me. Dance for me mates'' and she said im too embarrassed and i cursed her. Now she is mad at me and i think that its unfair as i was clearly off my face at the time.

Also there is other legal stuff complicating this. Some accidents.

Answer 1

Sean

Forgive me for being so blunt, but you should have more respect for your wife. There is simply no excuse for this, irrespective of the amount of alcohol that you had consumed before this ritual humiliation that you subjected your wife to. I don't blame her for being mad at you. I guess she's also deeply hurt and embarrassed. What you need to do now is to reflect on this from her perspective, and then do whatever it takes to make amends. But before you can do that you need to fully recognise the impact of your shameful behaviour that you compounded by involving your mates, You might also want to think about what sort of an example this was to your younger brother, who I feel also deserves an apology from you.

Answer 2

That's not an excuse. You have hurt her pride and her feelings, you should just be humble I'm afraid, and let her get it out of her system. I'm sure she'll get over it, but in the meantime I suggest a sincere apology and some gesture that she would appreciate, like doing her chores for a bit. Other than that, don't bring it up. And don't do it again! That was an extremely sh*tty thing to do. She is not a possession for you to parade. Anyway... I would forgive you. Eventually ;)

Answer 3

I think you still must be off your face if think that she is going to take this lying down. Not only did you humiliate her in front of your brother but you think so little of her you would make a laughing stock of her in front of your mates. I hope the complications and accident happened to you when she hit you with a frying pan.

Answer 4

Unless she likes dancing for your mates then probably

Aw being pissed just disn't work as a reason when you get over 18 I find

Having said that when I'm pissed I get my mates to dance for the enjoyment of my missus

Looking at that written down there I'm starting to think maybe I drink a bit too much..

Answer 5

You certainly weren't that drunk as you just gave a blow by blow account of what happened - so your lame excuse to avoid taking responsibility doesn't fly.

If my mate ever spoke to me like this I'd request he dance for me too...right out the door.

You actually cursed her? I think you should get off your pity pot and stop feigning victimhood. You owe her a sincere appology. Grow up.

Answer 6

It certainly was babe, you obviously love her and respect her but you shouldnt have done that sweetheart. To be quiet honest if you had done it to me your teeth would have been where you pass waste from. You got to make it up to her babe and dont do it again. Are you sleeping on the settee ?. You have clearly demeened this person you say you love but think what she felt, would you have liked it if she was sat there with lots of girly friends and asked you to do the same. No you wouldnt, you have shown her up and she feels abused. Your lucky you havent lost her. Well you read them all like I have and I think 99% say you are a complete and utter b**stard.

Answer 7

Why did you feel you needed to get soooo drunk in the first place and show your wife up? I bet she could have died of embarrassment the poor girl.
You have a lot of growing up to do haven't you. Marriage is a responsibility assigned to adults, not drunken school boys who act their shoe size instead of their age.
Do the descent thing and take her out for a meal and apologise to her like a man.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

There are no words I can come up with to describe how beastly this behaviour is. I do think some words that could be used in divorce court would carry much better weight.

This is too shameful for further discussion.

--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 10

Put yourself in her situation. Would yo have been mad at her if she got drunk and cursed you cous you wouldn't put up a show for her or one of her friends. Then you have your answer whether she is unfair or not. Personally i think you should apologize allot.