I have a boyfrind whose ex keeps jumping into the picture. She was pregnant when they got together and not that she has had the baby he has got attached to the baby. It is over now between the girl and him but now that I am in the picture she wants to throw the baby all up in his face (which is not his).
Recently the baby was at his house, I was there also. She baby and had fun playing together. It seemed as if we had our own little family. But the problem is, I am hurting inside. I do not have any children. I believe that there is no such thing as having the baby and not the mother also. I do not want him to choose, but I do not as long as he is dealing with the baby he will have to be around the mother also. What should I do... There is a saying "lose one and hurt the other" but I am the one HURTING. Someone please give me some advice....
2007-02-19 01:29:11 · 11 answers · asked by lisababy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry...you can not make his decisions for his life...but you can decide for yourself...it's okay if this is not working for you, it is okay to say so...Just tell him that you care about him, and it is okay if he wants to continue this relationship with this child that is not his....but it isn't working for you....and so to be true to yourself you are going to have to move on...say this only if you have the courage to follow through on it...Who knows what his choice will be...but it will be one that he makes on his own, not being forced and then resenting you for it....Be brave...but love yourself enough to be a good friend to yourself. Good luck.
2007-02-19 01:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby isn't his? Or is it?
Tell him how you feel about it. Sounds like the mother is milking the situation for all it's worth. Tell him what you see, because he may be so blinded by the fact that he's a new father, and he loves this baby, that he doesn't see that the mom is using the baby to manipulate him.
Remember too that if he wanted to be with her he would be. But he's with you because he wants to be.
2007-02-19 01:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously very distressed mentally. think of ofyou've have been given the guy so why no longer go into reverse and grant it some respiratory room. different than she starts performing some element stupid like stalking the two one between you. if so call the regulation yet indoors the interim purely relax and notice if some thing greater develops, Why fan the fires? some thing you will in all hazard do precise now will greater powerful than in all hazard purely inflame the situation.
2016-10-16 00:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and tell him you need to talk....tell him as long as she's throwing that baby in your face theres a bigger possibility that he's gonna go back to her. And tell him that its not his kid so why does he care so much if they arent together? Tell him it bothers you when you think about it cause you knw what she is tryin to do which is cleary to get him back! Let him know how you feel and what yall can do to make it work. If he's got a problem with you sayin anythinga bout it let him go. He's better off with her anyway. If he agrees try to fix the problem and get that baby moma outta yalls life! Goood Luck!
2007-02-19 01:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by CrazyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of the relationship. if he wants to play daddy to someone elses baby then let him. it will be an expensive mistake....but he will have to learn
2007-02-19 01:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i say just tell him and ask him whats happening ever scince we got together shes ben throwing the baby all in your face and its not even yours i say talk to him cuz its not fair to you cuz in this situation who really matters is YOU!!
2007-02-19 01:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Al 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of the relationship,he is hurting you very bad,i know the pain you are going through,if he loves you he has to stop being daddy to another woman.
2007-02-19 01:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by prettyg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need pictures of his ex. You're going to take up dart throwing and need targets.
2007-02-19 01:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey look you got to understand that his child, i know its difficult but you should have known this from the start that he has a kid, and the bond he will have is of bloode, much deeper then he could ever have with you. just accpet it if you lovve him, and dont spoil a great relationship!
2007-02-19 01:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him politely how difficult it is for you. Don`t force him. If he is understanding, he shouldn`t put you through it. Good luck.
2007-02-19 01:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋