whats wrong with me?

Question

im a 26 going on 27 in a few weeks year old attractive independant female,my exes have been complete barstewards and abusive,my boyf at the moment i know is lying to me about seeing other girls but wont just be honest with me,and i cant bring myself to end it as i care for him 2 much.why do i attract these type of losers,all i want is someone whos going to treat me with respect and whos honest and loving,whats wrong with me,i feel at this rate im going to end up being one lonley gal...

Answer 1

Pick me - pick me - pick me!!!!!

Ditch the loser - change your haunts - go to other places to meet people - stick to the same old haunts and you will meet the same old tosspots!

Answer 2

I'm pretty sure theres nothing wrong with you. Maybe it's the type of bloke you go for. Ever think that subconsciously your attracted to the type that promise nothing and generally act like idiots because at least you know what you're getting?
Maybe you've had so many bad experience's with blokes as well that your naturally suspicious and that may show.
Or maybe you just haven't met the right one yet.

What i do know is its not uncommon to have a string of bad relationships. Most people generally only have the one good one in their lifetime so don't beat yourself up about it!

I hope you figure things out for yourself, good luck!

Answer 3

i had the same problem. u have 2 love urself. u have 2 notice the signs 1st b4 giving ur whole self. 1st if u keep havin these feeling that there is sum1 else and it turns out that it is then u need 2 leave him alone. don't put all ur eggs in 1 basket so quickly.u have 2 love urself and put urself 1st and realize that u r captable of a men lovingYOU. u r special and u do deserve better. i gave my ex chance after chance bcauase i loved him but he continued 2 direspect me and cheat. hurry up and leave b4 it gets 2 hard. . there is nothing wrong with u at all ur just caught up at the moment. it takes time but don't let a man run over u.u want happiness, u can have it. it's ur choice.

Answer 4

Firstly you want to ditch this looser that you are with, if he is playing away and not treating you right... get rid! Have some respect for yourself, no one has the right to treat you like that or be abusive in any way. You are a unique special person, you have good points and bad, just like us all, and you certainly do not deserve to be treated badly. Get him out of your life and find you, be happy and confident in you, look at all your posatives, you are cleary intelegent and know how you want to be treated, find people that will treat you how you deserve will respect and love you for you, will spend there time loving and caring for you in the way you deserve, make you special and the only one.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with you so please don't think that, the fact is most women think this.
From what you have said it sounds like you are scared of being alone and that is why you keep going out with these guys that are just not right for you.
If you truly believe your current boyfriend is seeing other women then get rid of him now, i know you care for him but do you really want to keep letting him walk all over you like this just because you don't want to be alone????
You are a great girl and you deserve to treated like one, so instead of jumping from guy to guy why not just get rid of all this baggage and just be on your own for a while.
Learn to love yourself first and before you know it some great guy will whisk you off your feet.
Good luck babe xxx

Answer 6

nothing is wrong with you.
maybe just a little tweaking of strategy.
it could be the crowd you're with (the kind of friends and neighborhood/atmosphere) you have.If you really want to, you can dodge off those you detect as "losers" and keep and attract the good ones. believe me, there's an ocean of good men out there.Look pretty and respectable. be sweet the the right way. Let beauty radiate from within (whew!)
Happy hunting!

Answer 7

You need to respect yourself if you want other people to respect you too and by letting these people get away with these things it shows lack of self respect. ditch the bloke try being single for a while figure yourself out find some happiness and love for yourself and when you're truly happy with yourself then you go find somebody worth having a great person like you :--)

Answer 8

god you sound like me! Same age same disastrous love life!
I personally have put it down to getting blinded in the relationship, you sound like you do the same? Get in so deep, give everything and probably don't voice expectations to your partner for fear of causing a scene or losing them.
To put it in perspective my ex was abusive, and now my current (now ex as well lol moment of clarity, read on) is a total tool, he says he loves me etc but has kept me a secret for 4 years, never having met any of his family friends or even kid. Then i was rushed into hospital on Saturday, i sent him a text to say what was happening and as of yet he hasn't replied!!!
That was my wake up call.
Its hard to be alone but as you know its harder to live with the feeling that you love someone implicitly and they just don't give a damn, you deserve better, love works both ways and he doesn't seem to be doing anything to keep it going.
Youre better off without.

Answer 9

You need to learn to love and respect yourself first... If you don't have the courage and strength to end this disrespectful, abusive boyf... you won't find anyone else...

.Continuing in this relationship will only lessen your confidence....

...End it and move on.. you may not find someone in the first year, may not even in the second... but you will find yourself, and start to love and respect yourself.... your not going to end up lonely, there is a lovely gentleman out there that you rightfully deserve, who will honour, respect and love you...

Best wishes!x

Answer 10

Don´t be too hard on yourself. I was there myself not too long ago, he kept walking out and coming back, he was also abusive. I just kept holding onto him, I thought I loved him and it carried on for 9 months or so... Then while he was gone again I met the most wonderful guy in the world, I met him while he was on holiday in South Africa and from the first moment we were inseparable. He had to go back to Germany for two months before we could see each other again. When he was away my ex came back and begged me for forgiveness but I just could not get back with him after being with someone who really cares for me, ans respected me. It was hard being alone then for 2 months waiting for Markus to come back, and many times I thought of calling my ex just to have some company but I stuck it out. 1st of July Markus came back and we got married on August. And now we are expecting our first child and I would not change anything and won´t trade my husband in for anyone.....

You can do it, just believe in yourself. Bite on your teeth, because it´s not going to be easy.... But you can do it....

Answer 11

there is nothing wrong with you. you are still young and have loads of time to meet someone that is worth your time.

be strong i know its hard be sometimes you have to stand up for yourself to get respect, people think they can treat other people like dirt and its fine but they forget how much this hurts and would they like to be treated in the same way.

i'm 32 and i am single and the last guy who i was with i caught him out lying to me and i confronted him and it felt great that i stood up for myself he ended up looking like a fool.

i know it hurts having to break it off but be strong and stay busy with friends they'll help you get through this. good luck and if you need to talk here's my email [e-mail]

take care.