I do not understand whats going on with my daughter.?

Question

It does not matter what day, time.... anything there is nothing I can do to make her a happy person. This is so hard to explain. Right now.. as an example it is 8:10.... I woke up bothe my kids up at 6:50 and told them good morning and it time to wake up. Jared my son gets up a few min later and gets ready for school. Julie on the other hand threw a fit in her bed because of the clothes she picked out last nightand, so I took the clothes away fron her. told her she has to be nice to get them back. but I also told her she needed to get ready for schol still. So she brushes her teeth and then screams about her hair for the next 15 min. I told her she needed to spend her time wisely.... something i am telling them al the time so they can understand time limits. She has a problem with everything and I am at my wits end because of it. i try and try to make everymorning a good morning but nothing works. this is not all either i will explain that in another post since I am out of space.

Answer 1

how old is your daughter? If she is almost a teenager she will do this. If you remember back on that age, it is very hard. Especially in these times. It's very hard to be a teenage girl, the way you dress and look is very important even though we want to teach them that it is not. In your mind you need to go back to being a teenager, that cares what others think about you.

Answer 2

First u should let her pick out her own clothes.Get her an alarm clock too.Plus it sounds like she thinks it's okay to have this type of behavior in the morning.My advise to u is to tell her that if she has a problem.Then u will help her if she doesn't scream and carry on.If she does throw a fit then she is to stay in her room until she is done.If she is late for school then tell her of a punishment that will happen.Like no t.v or whatever she likes to do after school.She sounds like she is around 8 to 12.I work with these age kids and they will go as far as u let them. Your job is not to make her happy in the morning.Your job is to feed her,cloth her,keep a roof over her head,and to love her.She needs to learn at a young age how to make herself happy.Or u will be doing her a miss justice.Try this u might find out it works and makes sense.Good luck to u.If she is older then u really have a problem cause she's acting and being treated like a 12 yr old.

Answer 3

Let me guess she must be 13 or 14 right? Never in my parenting life did I encounter a more grumpy grouchy nasty child than I did when my girls were 13. They were just like that. All you can do is lay down some rules. Mine were: 1.No yelling about your hair. We really dont want to hear it. 2. Pick your clothes and dont tell me you dont have any -I buy them remember.No screaming or yelling about them either. 3. dont borrow your sisters (or brothers) clothes. I did let the girls pick their own clothes out as long as it was appropriate.

I had another child who was grumpy and grouchy but only in the morning. I found to just leave him be and not to talk to him unless necessary worked good.

Dont know if any of this will help but it might stop some of the yelkling in the morning.

Answer 4

Couple of questions... How old is she? Is this something new that has started or was she always like this and it's worse now?
It is possible that she could be depressed. You may want to make an appointment with the pediatrician.
What can possibly work is limit setting. For example, she picked out her clothes make her wear them! Just make her accountable for her choices.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

That is exactly what I was going through with my son who is 6. I was so nice in the mornings and he just had an attitude. That made me so mad. I told him the night before that if he wants to be nasty, two of us can play that game. The next day, I wake him up banging on a metal pan and a metal spoon, pull the covers off, and sprinkled him with some cold water. Sure did. I asked him what he liked better. Nice mommy or loud, rude mommy. I had to do that a couple of times, but don't have the problem anymore. Don't let your kids walk over you and treat you bad. YOU gave them life. Don't feel bad that you do that to him either. He don't feel bad when he treats you bad. Teach him a lesson.

Answer 6

One of my three daughters was very hard to get going to when she was young. She just never was a morning person. She always ran late to everything and she hated change too. She hated getting a new teacher and she hated it when we moved. She used to take forever to get ready for anything and one of her teachers told me in elementary school that she had to get ready, to get ready to do anything.

I know it isn't a big help but all we could do was stick to our guns. We got her up at the same time every day and stayed on a schedule. She eventually outgrew it but she was in high school before she did. She became easier to get up and such but she still isn't a morning person.

Answer 7

Hormones!!!