...I have been with my boyfriend for two months. I care about hime very much. My springbreak is coming up in a few weeks and he said he might go out of town to see a friend of his for a few days that week. He asked me if I wanted to go with him.
I want to go with him, but I don't think my parents would really approve of me spending the weekend with him. I am almost 23 and I know at that age most people don't really listen to their parents anymore, but I still live with them and I care about what they think.
Should I ask them anyway and just see what they have to say? Or should I just tell my boyfriend that I don't think it is a good idea for us to go out of town together so soon in our relationship?
2007-02-19 01:10:47 · 8 answers · asked by southernbell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 23 and live with my parents too, so I get where you're coming from. Just tell your parents that you've been invited to go with him to visit some of his friends out of town, and you're thinking about going. If you think it's too soon to go out of town with him, then don't go. If you're comfortable, and the rents are comfortable, then it's all good.
My ex and his parents were going on vacation to Michigan and asked me if I wanted to go too. My parents weren't thrilled (they weren't his biggest fans), but they said I could go. I went and had a great time, and even though about a year and a half later things ended badly between him and I, I never would have been to Michigan if I hadn't gone, so I don't regret going. Of course, it was a family vacation, not just me and him off to see one of his friends, but it can't hurt to ask. The worst they could say is no, and you'll have to accept the concequences if you go without their permission.
A friend of mine from school is dating an international student from Argentina. She planned to go see him over the summer without their permission. About a week or 2 before the trip she told them that she was going, and they basically said they'd cut her off financially (we go to a private college) if she went through with going on the trip. She did, and she's having a hard time making it through on her own. Just an example of the consequences theay may be out there (however, this is the extreme consequence).
2007-02-19 01:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready to go out of town with your boyfriend then don't go. It sounds like it is too soon. I remember going out of town with my boyfriend. I had lied to my parents so I could go. I had lied to my parents so that I could be with my boyfriend. We were engaged at the time. I also had lived with my parents so I had to live by my dad's rules. My boyfriend and I spent the weekend together. I was only 21 at the time. We'll, what happened,I ended up pregnant. That has been years ago but it hurt my parents real bad. I did get married to the guy but it did not work out for me. If you are not ready to go out of town with your boyfriend then don't go.
2007-02-19 09:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the time of life you enjoy..not listen to the parents..you are 23 means a lot! You are an adult and know your good and bad.
2007-02-19 09:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to go talk to your parents about it. Tell them that you respect their wishes. If they don't want you to go and there's a proper reason stay home this time but make them understand that your capable to make your own choices. Next time an oppertunity like this arises it will be easier for them to start letting you go. Let them spend a bit of time with him so they can get a chance to trust him.
2007-02-19 09:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to go! I mean your 23 and its your life, the fact that you care about what your parents thinks shows that you respect them enough to rethink your actions of going. But if you honestly really want to go. I fully sugest that you talk to them about it and tell them why they should let you go.
2007-02-19 09:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by meg r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r 23 u should b making ur own decisions not have ur parents make them for u.
2007-02-19 09:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by Mighitman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your decision. however, ask your parents first, and let that influence your decision
2007-02-19 09:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by Spearfish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i think that it's still too soon. other opportunities will come.
2007-02-19 09:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by swirlz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋