We only communicate through letters
2007-02-19 01:05:08 · 16 answers · asked by Dri 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
Show your concern, but don't overreact, they are still the same person, worst you can do is either be overly concerned OR the opposite and acting like nothing is wrong. Don't shun either. It also depends on how well you know each other. But just remain a steadfast friend they can lean on! That means everything!
2007-02-19 01:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sand Sparkles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I would do is express my concern and empathize with the person. From there, ask more about it so I can research it myself. Next, help him make a list of things he has always wanted to do. And help him reach those goals.
I would also note, I am a little suspicious. I would take all the precautions and a few more that I could before going for a visit. If this is a ruse to meet you, it is in pretty poor taste and I would think him a little mental. As a mental, he means you no good. If the sickness is true, is he mentally stable enough not to just say, "I'm dying anyway, so who cares?"
If you can put the above to rest (he is truly sick and not mental), then if you can visit him, it would do his spirits a world of good.
Good luck and above all, take care!
2007-02-19 01:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by Micheal F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would not freak out about it because that's probably already been done. Asking if there's something you can do or if they want to have a mini vacation with you (seeing as you were probably friends at one point 'in person) might be nice, too, but it depends on the personalities involved. Personally I think its strange they'd send you a letter saying they have a terminal illness. That's usually an on the phone or in person type of announcement.
2007-02-19 01:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by BJ tech 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them if you can pray with them. Keep going to see them. A lot of times people don't visit the person. Visit, talk if they want, pray if they want. Ask if they know the Lord. If not read John 3:16 read as much of the Bible as you can. Find a minister to help you talk with them. They told me I have lung cancer. Was operated on in December and I'm gaining strength all the time I don't know if it's all gone or if it went some where else. I do know the Lord is with me all the way, He is holding my hand and carrying me when I get to tired.
2007-02-19 01:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by candy_oranges12345 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. i might confirm all human beings replaced into properly presented for after i replaced into long previous, yet my philosopy is "stay 'till ultimately you die". i might properly get knocked down via a bus day after today! If I have been terminally unwell, even then i would not understand the hour of my very own dying. I plan to be alive 'till ultimately the 2nd I die. With lots of the kinfolk I even have, i understand i would not settle for that privilige if I informed them. (a gaggle of over sentimental miseries!)
2016-10-02 09:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad, but this is a part of life. I won't say this is the best way but I have always talked to the person as I usually do and never discuss the end until they bring it up. I also assure them of what good things have happened because of them. I am sorry for your friends illness and wish you all well.
2007-02-19 01:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by tman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send something to them that you know they will love - a book or a gift and then make sure they understand that you know that they may feel too tired to write sometimes but thats ok because you will be the one doing the writing as long as it is necessary. My friend had a similar situation and what was sad that when the person died no one bothered to contact her and let her know.
2007-02-19 01:51:29 · answer #7 · answered by gaviscon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many people think they have to act differently, don't. Act the same, my sister-in-law has breast cancer it has now spread to her bones, she looks like a little old lady with a huge hump on her back, i talk to her like normal, i ask her questions like how did it start, i ask her if she is hurting anything. She told me she appreciates it as everybody she knows sort of avoids her now and speaks in soft tones like she is dead. I treat her the same, still buy her choccies, everything, only thing that is not allowed is taking photo's of her, she wants to be treated like she is healthy. Good luck, i know it is hard but don't run around her like she is unable to do anything herself, unless she asks you. I love my sister-in-law a lot and will miss her badly when she goes to the guy in the sky.
2007-02-19 01:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to here about your dilemma.
Have you ever met this person?
How do you feel?
Do you feel as if you should visit?
These are questions i would ask myself, you can only offer sympathy, guidance, and support
And if possible be there for that person, whether it is in writing, on the phone, or there in person
All the best for you and your friend
~Dekker~
2007-02-19 01:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by Dekker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter sympathising with him and tell him he can always talk to you about his feelings. Don't try to understand what he is going through because you will never know(hopefully)
2007-02-19 01:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋