I'm a college senior. I met an old friend at the bar. She introduced me to a friend of her, who is an extremely attractive woman, named A. A kept telling me that I needed to call her afterwards, and we hardly talked. I'm really curious, what could she want? I learned that she has a 2-yr old kid and just got divorced with her abusive husband. If we hook up, are there going to be harmful consequences? I need your experience. Thanks!
2007-02-19 00:54:13 · 9 answers · asked by vavavoom14 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she just wants laid. She doesn't want a husband, she just wants to have sex with you. Call her or give me her number.
2007-02-19 00:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably wants your body dude! Maybe she likes you. Is there a problem with that? Are you ugly as a stick?
You'll find as you go through life that many of the women you meet will begin to get older, as you yourself will be getting older. Some of these women will have past life experience, ie: been there. done that, had the kid.... Having an abusive ex doesn't mean there are going to be harmful consequences. That can be had in any replationship, but for the most part, normal people enter into a relationship hoping for a pleasant experience. Just be nice to her, so even if it doesn't work out, you're not following the pace of her ex and giving her a valid reason to hate men. Show her that some guys ARE nice. As for the child, it's hers. Don't be a dad. Be nice, loving, caring, but the child has a father. This is very hard to understand. I'm in a situation where my partner has 2 boys from a previous marriage, and although I am well liked, I ALWAYS enforce the fact that they have a dad that loves them. I treat them fairly, but never do I try and compete with their dad or do anything that will tarnish him in their eyes. He should be their hero.
If you hook up with her, give her the chance to see that you can be nice. If you're just looking to get laid, remember there are people behind those faces, and what you do will mold the shape of their futures. At the same time, don't let her mess you over.
Welcome to the new age of dating. It's no longer boy meets girl, they live happily ever after. Now it's boy with children from first marriage meets girl with kids from first marriage and they form an amalgamated family and try and live happily ever after. It can be done, but it's work. Favoritism comes in, animosity, jealousy.... all this has to be overcome.
Good luck brother!
2007-02-19 09:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by Karate_Mike 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if she has a kid? She is probably lonely, and thought you seemed like a nice guy and just wants some companionship. She's probably looking for someone that has some respect, and some dignity about them. She was abused by her ex husband...I think that you should try to show her that not all guys are like that. Just give her a call if your attracted to her and get to know her a little bit. Give her a chance...yes if a relationship gets started you will have to be around her husband, but if she can prove that he was abusive, he may not get any rights to see their child. So if that's what your worried about, I wouldn't be worried. Plus, if he does come at you, there is always the number you can call for the cops.
2007-02-19 09:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call her. Just because she has a kid doesn't mean she wants you to be "daddy" to it. She probably just wants a good man after being in such a bad relationship and thinks you are worth a shot. Take it as a compliment. Don't just not give her a chance because of the kid. It may be the best thing that could even happen to you. The kid does have a dad so if you do date this girl it's not like you automatically be a new dad overnight. : ) Good luck.
2007-02-19 09:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by AngieBaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will always have to deal with her ex husband because he will have visitation or partial custody. If he is abusive he might get out of control towards you. She is just looking for someone to support her and her baby. I would stay away.
2007-02-19 08:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by jacksfullhouse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she just got divorced...she happens to have a child...she was out and introduced to you...evidently she is attracted to you and would like you to call
you don't even know her so what does it matter unless you are attracted to her also and want to date?
be cool...
2007-02-19 08:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call her - It's sorta like playing with fire- she sounds like she needs to talk it through with someone before looking for another relationship... ;)
2007-02-19 08:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants you to eat at the Y
2007-02-19 08:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by dcam47 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
May be she wants your money and use you as sexual slave
2007-02-19 14:10:52 · answer #9 · answered by Huasito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋