Hi, im lucy and im 19, in december 2005 i found out i was pregnant, that my angel had died and that i was to give birth on the same day, i talk to some people from the SANDS society but i would like to talk to more about it, if you have had a similar situation please dont hesitate to talk to me :)
2007-02-19 00:50:28 · 24 answers · asked by Lucy M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
sorry louise i didnt make it clear, i was full term but did not know i was pregnant, i know somebody is going to say "how could you not know?" etc but i just didnt, plain and simple!
2007-02-19 01:11:11 · update #1
First of all i am very sorry!! My 1st born(DAUGHTER) died 2 weeks before i delivered her and it is something you will NEVER get over!! It took me 4years to have another child because of the stress of it all,but i had a son and a daughter after all that and thank god every day for them !! I will pray for you Lucy that you can once again have peace&have another child!! May god bless you &your family!! Sincerely,LINDA BUG !!!!
2007-02-19 00:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by linda bug 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I was 18 when I lost my daughter (full term ) , she would be 21 next month, and although you never get over it you do come to terms with it, you have to or you would crack up ! So many people said to me ' oh your young, you can have more ' but that is just crap. Losing a baby at any age is terrible but you have to believe things happen for a reason, I went on to have 3 perfectly healthy children who are my entire life but there isnt a day that goes by that I dont think about my Katie. I wish you well, just remember you will have good days as well as bad but your baby will always have a special place in your heart . X
2007-02-19 03:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by mum of 3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never had to deliver my babies once they died, but I know people who have. & I just wanted to say how sorry I am for you. I know that nobody knows that pain, except someone who's been through it, and even they can't always help. After my 2nd miscarriage my best friend lost 3 in a row. No matter how much I wanted to help her, I couldn't b/c even though I'd been through it, it's such a personal pain that is indescribable. I can't imagine, how painful it was for you to give birth, and see your precious baby. I hope that you are feeling better and that you are finding peace w/ losing your angel. Good luck and once again, I'm so sorry for your loss.
2007-02-19 00:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my son last year to stillbirth. I was also full term. I went in for my ultrasound the day before my c-section was scheduled, and they told me he was gone. It will be one year in March. I know you will never stop grieving for the loss of your angel. I have used www.missfoundation.org as an online resource...it's run by grieving mothers, and it's really good.
I also attend monthly meetings held by The Compassionate Friends ( www.comapssionattefriends.org ). It's a wonderful support group, made up of grieving parents mostly, but other family members get involved. They have a yearly conference, lots of year-round activities, like memorial services, walks, etc.
You can email me anytime you want to talk.
Remember, from womb to tomb, they are always your baby.
2007-02-25 04:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy2myangelMark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u poor poor hunny. well, i'm pregnant at the moment, 29 weeks (sorry if thats mildly un-caring, its not meant 2 b) with my first and never had a still birth (hence this is me 1st) but i was born a twin. she died 10 days after we were born. my mum dnt evn kno she was carrying twins!! my older bro n sis were twins so she kinda figured she'd kno how twins felt n all that, but i was the only super active one and she wasn't. when we were born she seemed fine and i was the incredibly ill one, but then just as i was on the verge of death she just suddenly died. no one really knows why.
anywayz. i don't kno if that was an consilation 2 u. pretty sure it wasn't, but im so sorry 2 hear of ur loss babes.
as u say, ur baby was an angel, clearly too good to live in a world of hate and corruption. she/he is now at rest with all the others that are too good to live on our mortal relm. looking out over you, and prob wishing she/he could hug u and make u smile, evn if it was just for one second. whenever u feel down, just remember, they were just far too perfect to live in our world. u'll be with them again some day
2007-02-19 12:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by evilbunnyhahaha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
i lost a baby girl at 22 weeks pregnant. So i know the hurt your feeling. I find it easier to think of her as living upstairs and one day we will go to live with her in the mansion in the sky.
We talk about her all the time.
It suck when you have to give birth to a baby without life but it does get easier.
Take care
2007-02-19 09:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by carinaburke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Lucy, what a devastating thing to have happen to you at your young age. However, you will again see and be with your angel some day. God gives us the hope of the Resurrection. He tells us in the Bible John 5:28 "Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment."
Study the Bible and learn God's purposes for the earth and for humans. I study with Jehovah's Witnesses and have learned this and much more and now things are very clear to me. Try it, you'll be amazed.
2007-02-25 17:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by matriarch_seven 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my wife and I are really sorry for your loss, we have also experienced still birth and it has had devasting effects for both of us but in particularly my wife. My wife is planning to visit the sands memorial garden as soon as she feels ready but she is currently nearly 40wks pregnant with our 3rd baby and so feels that this may not be the right time. I hope in time that you get better people say time is a healer but for my wife her pain is still raw. We wish you all the best.
2007-02-19 08:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand? you were full term? or you had just found out you were pregnant?
omg your poor love, to find out you was pregnant and to lose a baby all in one day must have been truly awful. i have a friend who sadly lost her baby at 5 weeks old due to very poor health, i can understand the pain you must feel. you're doing a lovely thing offering support to other parents in this tragic situation. All i can promise is the pain with dull and you will find peace and happiness one day. thinking of you xxxx
2007-02-19 00:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by louise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi im lorraine im so sorry for your loss i lost my daughter 6yrs ago now she was 11 i know she was not a baby but she was my baby i think every parent who loses a child no matter how old they were its very hard to come to terms with and you never get over it you learn to live with it and you have good days and bad days you still need people to chat to who have been through the same as you if you need to chat you can contact me anytime best of luck xx
2007-02-19 01:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by lorraine x 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋