My father is nearing 80 and is retired in an expensive Florida home. On a recent visit he took me aside and told me he'd left evrything to his current wife. I was so shocked and dumb-founded I didn't say a word. I'm back home now but I'm wondering if I should I bring it up again?
2007-02-19 00:21:59 · 12 answers · asked by LuckyO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know I will probably make a lot of people angry by saying this, but I'm going to anyway. When my husband died, I automatically got everything because I was his wife. His adult children didn't really like that because they wanted it all. But he and I together built everything that we had because his first wife, their mother, has everything they had before. He and I spent years paying on a house, improving our land, buying equipment, etc. When he died, they were so angry because I wouldn't turn over everything we had worked for all those years. There are certain rights a wife has that come with her position that children just have to respect. A man's wife owns things together with him. If he dies, she gets them. She worked hard for them too.
2007-02-19 00:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by Deborah B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that! If that is what he did, then there is nothing that you can do right now. You do need to tell him how you feel about his decision! There has to be some reason why he would leave everything to his new spouse and not his own child! I know how you feel though, because my mother died when I was 13 and my father died in 2004 and my step mom got the house. My mom and my dad made a will stating the house would go to me and my siblings but for some reason I wasn't able to get the house. She's till living there now! I hope you can get this problem resolved and that your father sees his mistake before its too late!
2007-02-19 08:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of discussed this topic with him before the will was made out. It sounds like he's already has his mind made up. Most Husbands leaves everything to their spouse(because they worked together to earn the stuff) and then when that spouse passes away, then it gets passed down to the children. Maybe they have it set up that way. And don't think bad about his third wife, he may of made that decision on his own. Best thing to ask him now is how is it set up for when his wife passes then who gets what.
2007-02-19 14:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom did the same thing. It really hurt me when she told me, and I didn't know how to respond at the time, so I didn't.
I don't know how your relationship is with your father. If it's decent, you may want to say something. My relationship with my mom is not all that great -- I believe her to be incredibly selfish and self centered. So, despite my hurt, I realized it really didn't matter. If that's what she wanted to do, so be it. That's how she's lived her life, why should I expect any different in death?
I wish I could say something more for you.
Good luck.
2007-02-19 08:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Amish Rebel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your father is unsure of his decision and that is why he informed you of this, to see your response. He obviously has feelings for his wife and she is a larger part of his life now than you are. I would somehow make him aware of your feelings regarding this.
2007-02-19 08:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by WNY64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd bring it up to him...if you feel you can talk to your father openly.
But honestly, he can do whatever he wants with him money and posessions. He does't have to leave them to his children. If he wants to leave it to his current wife...he has every right.
But, you may want to discuss with him why he hasn't included you in the will.
2007-02-19 08:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by Misty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that's ok, within a matter of months after his death, she'll probably have all his hard earned money blown and will have a boyfriend to help her spend what he worked for.
2007-02-19 09:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you need to tell him how you feel, dont hold back, now the law read he can do this, , which i think is wrong,, but if you realy want part of he will, leaveing, get you a lawer,
2007-02-19 08:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his money.... It is a shame he didn't include you but he has a right to leave what he earned to whomever he wants to.
2007-02-19 08:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are really hurt because of his decision, and should re-consider.
2007-02-19 08:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋