It has been months since me and my ex have broken up. But I cant seem to bring myself to delete all of our old texts and voicemails they left me, or put away all the stuff they gave me. I know we are done and they have moved on (which everytime we talk they make it a point to include at some point) so what is my deal?
2007-02-19 00:12:06 · 26 answers · asked by pinklove7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello, I'm sorry you are suffering at the moment. There's nothing wrong with you at all, everyone takes different time span to get over a break up, you are actually grieving and it take a while to emotionally heal even when your mind knows things have moved on. You'll delete texts when you are ready. You need to focus on other friends, activities, hobbies etc, and slowly you will realise that it hurts a little less one day. Your question suggests you are still in touch with this person, if so maybe it's not such a god idea. You need to separate completely to move on.
Good luck.
2007-02-19 00:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to do is delete all the old texts and voicemails. Put away all the stuff they gave you, and start living life like it should be lived. You need to move on and by keeping all this crap around and revisiting the old texts and voicemails it's keeping you locked in a dead relationship. It's time to move on and find another person to become involved with.
2007-02-19 08:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always have a hard time transitioning from present to history. I keep all the old stuff and move on at the same time. Sometimes I look at the old notes and enjoy remembering the good times. Hey, it's part of my life. What's wrong with keeping reminders?
For me personally, it's part of my packratty personality, I think. Maybe you're the same.
2007-02-19 08:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Meg W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't seem to want to get of the memories yet. My suggestion is that you type everything he wrote you or said to you over voisemail into a word document. Than put that onto a floppy-disk and put that in a box allong with all the other things he gave you. Put the box in the attic (or somewhere else you can't see it ragulary). in 5 years you will be ready to get rid of those things, because the memories won't be fresh in your thougths anymore. good luck with it
2007-02-19 08:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by Marlieke89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the hardest part of getting over any relationship is closing the door. That includes deleting all old messages/voice mails and putting all things from them in a box and store it somewhere.
As long as you can access some part of them when life was good for you, you will never get over them and move on.
Get rid of all of it and in time you will get over the relationship.
If they dumped you, why are you still talking to them...they "dumped" you...tell them to leave you alone.......that is the only way to start the healing process...get rid of all of it, grieve and then move on. Good luck.
be cool...
2007-02-19 08:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your just havin trouble lettin go of the past. Either that or you still care about them. Well my suggestion to you to help you get it more undercontrol.....
1) all the stuff put it in a box and keep it label it yours and keep it that way (i have only been in 2 serious relationships, one im still in but i have stuff boxed up of both of theirs from the times we broke up,) it works because your not gettin rid of it yet you cant see it!
2) make an excuse like if i dont delete these my phone is gonna mess up! its not good to keep txt msgs just because if you get in another relationship its unhealthy!
Good luck!
2007-02-19 08:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by CrazyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU have un-finished business....just get a whole day, to walk down memory lane alone and cry all the tears you still have to shed, and say all the things you should've said in a note....then when you read it all over again,and your sure you understand that the both of you are through...burn the paper and blow the ashes away.then your done.
2007-02-19 08:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by me_myself_mwah. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not be obsessed with the past relationship, it is over, move on, there is no guarantee in life and is full of hardships. Pick yourself up forget the past and focus on the future, you are only depressing yourself by keeping reminders.
2007-02-19 08:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by vivib 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no problem
if you like those things, keep and cherish and enjoy them
he is probably doing pretty much the same
A few years ago I burned all my old letters from highschool sweethearts , etc. It was time to let it go.
Maybe you reach a time like that, maybe not.
I WANT somebody very much, anyway I can get her, if I only get to rent her sometimes, I guess I will have to accept that.
2007-02-19 08:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by agropelter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say they gave you and they moved on but everytime we talk. Were you involved with more than one person. It's a little confusing. I guess you have to get them? out of you life and move on.
2007-02-19 08:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋