my friend (in middle 30) has been dating with the guy (or man) who is 40 something, successful businessman. but he always tells her if she meets the right person, he doesn mind and she can go out with him because he doesnt want to commit himself into the relationship. but he still keeps dating her. if he wants just to sleep with anyone, he can (i mean he is obviously attractive) and i dont know why he wants to keep her. i want to advice my friend that he likes her. but i am not sure. i dont want my friend to get hurt after whatever i say and wont turn out that way. (hope people can understand what i mean) does he consider she is easy? or he has some feeling but he just doesnt know or he doesnt want any pressure from this relationship? could anyone like him advice me what is actually in his mind????
2007-02-18 23:58:43 · 11 answers · asked by honeycoco23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She should believe and trust everything he has told her and if she wants something more than just dating and sex, she should move on.
Like another person posted - many men in their 40s do not want marriage and commitment. They want their cake and eat it too. It's easy for him to be nice to her and take her out. There is nothing more there from him. He doesn't secretly love her.
The funny thing about this is that many women will fall for this type of guy and do you know why? It's because he isn't falling all over her. It's because we (men and women) always want what we perceive that we cannot have. By being aloof and telling her she can see other people, he setting the scene for her undying love. It's a common tactic among players.
2007-02-19 00:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good many men in that age bracket don't want the strings of a marriage to clutter thier lives. I certainly don't. While a successful happy marriage may be a great thing. Men who are in their 40's have more than likely tried it and it didn't work for them. Your friend just needs to follow her heart and not have people butting into her relationships. It's best when people keep their involvment in other's relationships to a minimum. Let your friend go it alone on her own, it's the only way she'll grow from the experience.
2007-02-19 00:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He obviously likes her or he wouldn't want to go out with her at all. He is older by a few years, but he isn't apparently ready for a commitment with anyone. At least he is being open and honest with her about that. He could be really playing her like she is the only woman in his life, but he has offered her the freedom to date others if she wants to. Also this could be a test for him to see if she will choose to date others and sort of gives him a wall of safety to hide behind just in case she does choose to date around. Maybe he is just trying to find out if she is capable of committing before he gets any close to her. If he really cares about your friend, the test of time will tell. It sounds like a good way to get to know her without jumping in too deep and getting hurt himself. Give it some time and if she really gets hooked on him, she should find a discreet way to let him know and give him a chance to take down his wall.
2007-02-19 00:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some say you need to by no ability say by no ability, yet even though, some human beings do advise by no ability. there is not any longer something you or everyone else can do to alter this guy or woman's strategies. in the event that they're desperate to no longer get married, they gained't. situations and alter and adult men have been generally happening to alter their minds. So have women persons. in basic terms time can tell in this count number. once you're sitting around hoping that this guy will without notice awaken one morning and say - confident! She's the only! forget approximately it. It does not artwork that way. rejoice with your existence and stay it. in spite of everything, isn't that what he's doing?
2016-10-16 00:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly he isnt looking for the right woman, he is looking for the best person "right now". He is keeping her around because he is getting what he needs from the relationship without commitment. Once she starts pushing for a committment, he will be out the door so fast.
He probably is a serial monogamist.
If she thinks that he will change, she will likely get hurt.
I doubt he thinks she is "easy" he probably thinks she is convienent.
2007-02-19 00:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by stellabella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okey i try to be him and think like him----{i will talk in 1st person}
im not ready for any commitment and never will
from the start i never love you but im lustfully yours
your overdue date is finished you can go
your my slave lover if i said bend you bend
your an easy girl so your an easy trash
if i said you come you will come
i am a succesful businessman and your nothing
i am your king and you are my peasant
so go if you want to
there are more to come
2007-02-19 00:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be scared to commit . He probably was hurt in the past and is scared if he gets deep feelings he may get hurt . He told her that so he can see what she would say . He is confused about how he should feel because he doesn't want to get hurt . Tell her that she needs to convince him she has no intentions on hurting him if that is what he is saying . GOOD LUCK !!!!
2007-02-19 00:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he has given her the greatest gift a woman could ver ask for, independence. That means he truly loves her and does not want to be selfish. But it sometimes a psychology thing. When someone tells you to feel free and do anything you want you tend to get closer to him. Anyeay i think this a a great guy and she should stick with her
2007-02-19 00:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he already told your friend what is on his mind, why do u need explanations? he already told that he doesn't want to commit, it means she is not the one for him, and he continues looking that's for sure. how do u know he is dating only your friend? maybe he dates lots of women (which is mostly likely) thta's why he wants her to look for someone too. he knows he isn't going to keep her forever. so when he finds the right woman he doesn't want to be blamed for wasting your friend's time
2007-02-19 00:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is living a peaceful married life but also wish to enjoy with her. You should ask her not to be get cheated by such a person who don't have sincere emotions but simply flirting.
2007-02-19 00:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋