Hi. Im 31 years old, an Indian, living in India. Im single and a virgin. Im hetrosexual. But when I think about marraige, I feel afraid. What if it breaks. Should I marry or remain single? Is live-in relationship a good idea?
2007-02-18 23:56:58 · 19 answers · asked by love32 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well your first concern should be to find someone that makes you happy and accepts you, where you both care a lot about each other. When you meet someone, telling someone that you are a virgin on the first date probably isn't the best idea. You should hold that off until maybe the 4th date or so. And i'm sure most people have a fear of a failed marriage, i know that's one of my fears. But life goes on, whether you marry or don't, you just have to take it as it comes. LIVE. If you feel marriage is the best for you and you really want it then dont hold back against the idea. But you also need to let it come to you and dont go looking for it. Good luck man!
p.s. i dont know what a live-in relationship is so i cant answer that part.
2007-02-19 00:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lenna O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not marrying for fear of a broken marriage is a poor idea. If this was the case, the majority of people would remain bachelors. A live-in relationship would probably satisfy your carnal desires but would not add stability to a relationship.
2007-02-19 00:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by shabbir b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage, like most things in life is a gamble......you need to play the game to win!
Pray to god that you meet someone you are compatible (both mentally and physically) with and attracted to.
Marriage and relationships are not to be taken for granted....it's a lot of "give and take' from both sides.
"Live in relationship" is again a gamble...but, TIME is the only way to get to know someone.
All the best!
2007-02-19 00:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fear is the killer of growth. fear keeps the infant from letting loose the bars of the crib and taking his first step. if you want a relationship but fear that it might end in failure, then you will never know. and if a relationship does fail, that doesn't define you as a failure unless you like to label yourself in this all-consuming way. take your time if you find a nice woman. spend as much time as you need to get to know her. and no, you don't need to have a live-in relationship to know if you're both meant for each other. judging from what you've said, i think this would create a problem in how you saw this woman and you might devalue her because she is willing to live with you before marriage. take chances in life and grow.
Peace my friend.
2007-02-19 05:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live-in relationships have a higher failure rate ( in marriage) than non live-in's. However, at your age. a woman may suspect homosexuality has kept you a "virgin, and want some proof of your ability to perform.
You need to date, form a number of light, dating, relationships until one of them begins to turn serious. Open and honest talk with a serious lady will bring you this answer.
2007-02-19 00:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you interested in getting married? are you ready for marriage?
being single can be a good thing but it can also be lonely
Nothing will break .. just dont worry too much about it or you will freak yourself out.
Do what you feel makes you happy .. thats the key to a good life :)
2007-02-19 00:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by DeeDee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was a 31 year old virgin when we met. he was a 33 year old virgin on our wedding day. When you meet her, she'll know and she'll respect you for being a virgin.
2007-02-19 00:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
study a few books on kama sutra and this will give you the courage to propose to a girl. Get married.
2007-02-19 00:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by cynnie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead man , thats what people have been doing for the past billion years , they didn't need books or guides .
All will come when you do it .
2007-02-19 00:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married and be strong, Be brave, and dont put your pic like that on your questions!
2007-02-20 11:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋