my gril of 8 years. we have 2 kids. the last kid we had 1half years ago.i know 110%she would not cheat on me. since our last kid we have only made it 5 times. the past 2 we just get started she makes me stop. she gets dry to the point it hurts her i guess.she dont like having me eat her. she dont suck me. so that dont leave me any optons for what i want. shes telling me the last kid messed up her drive. could i just be that bad all the sudin? or what is her problm? i try to talk to he about it . she keps teling me the dry hurts and she has a fear of geting knoked up again! i bought some ky one day and she fliped out on me. she clames she dont like that stuff. how can she know when shes not triying it. im the only guy she has ever ben with.we met when we wear 20 we are 28 now. i need to kow what to do to get it going again.i cant take it no more. starting to feal like just a room mate. if she makes me stop one more time and dont do any thing to finish me off. i will leave. HELP ME !!!!!
2007-02-18 23:37:54 · 12 answers · asked by farm_boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
after i had my baby, i also lost interest in sex. I was also dry down there no matter what my husband did. I was on birth control and doctor said to stop and try condoms. We tried with condom and now i can't have enough of my husband! it takes a lot of patience though...hubby always tried to make me fee lcomfortable, prolonged foreplay and he didnt put pressure on me. I was anti-sex for about 8 months after baby, buy now i'm on the go again. And i have gone back on the pill, and i have no problem with it now.
I don;t think she is tired of you or cheating. Its her hormones that have gone haywire..and also it can be stressful taking care of two kids...Maybe you should not pressure her too much to meet your needs. Try to show her that you love her, sex or no sex. Try to create a condusive atmosphere for you both, without children's interference, and prolong foreplay...whisper words to her, hold her, stroke her etc...
YOu know, just do your stuff, without all the pressure. Be patient with her..I'm sure you will reap the benefit soon..
2007-02-18 23:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by sweetDove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some help, say from a marraige counselor, sex therapist, a PROFESSIONAL that specializes in this field and will be able to mediate between you two. It is helpful to go this route because they try to find out causes/possible solutions of problems. They are not as biased as you/your wife, or people you may know and ask for advice, so they try to help you resolve your issues peacefully.
To me, it does not sound like her issue stems from a waning libido alone, but unless you can get her to truthfully and completely tell you all that goes through her head that makes her not want to sleep with you, and then devise a compromise that you both can agree on, you are better off getting the help of someone who can.
Good Luck, because I know this could drive someone crazy, but definitely try to work things out.
2007-02-18 23:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by Rizzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've tried everything and she's not open to new things maybe ask her to go to a sex therapist with you? I feel real sorry for you but you're going to have to take some serious action.
All the luck in the world!
2007-02-18 23:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many women experience low sex drive after prenancy, if she is scared of unwanted pregnancy, suggest the pill to her, and maybe try and relax her from the stress of caring for the babies by getting a babysitter and take her for a romantic outing where you will not be interrupted, maybe a hotel or a friend's house, try foreplay with champagne and strawberries. most women like that. If she is not ready to have sex again, take matters into your own hands..MASTURBATE! and wait for her to be ready again.
2007-02-18 23:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by princessjaja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are being jerks; you for not marring a woman before having kids with her, and her for not wanting to do something about your needs.
Fer of getting knocked up is real, and can cause painful coitus. The entire scene of having kids, no husband, a horny b/f can result in loss of libido.
Two suggestions; get married, and buy some birth control. Quit trying to make her have oral sex if she is uncomfortable with that. it's nasty, anyway!
2007-02-18 23:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 09:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wanted to agree to those who said its time for you to commit yourself. as a woman, marriage is a very big gift, and to know that you have two kids already, she might have had the fears of just completely loosing her chances and better future if her partner doesn't offer security after all this time. Make her feel that she's being loved and cared about and not just a baby maker and a 'sexual exhaust'.
2007-02-19 00:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by machooletz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate to tell you but it's time to move on dude! She's lost interest and if she ain't cheating now it's only a matter of time before she starts.
2007-02-18 23:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have so many over the counter products for dryness,wetness,ups,downs,etc...lol.she may need to make a doctors appt and talk with her gynecologist.don't leave this sounds serious.that would only make a bad situation worse.hold on.
2007-02-18 23:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by walker4907 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you need to woo her more..
bring her some flowers.. make her feel special and loved.. and i'm sure she'll get more in the mood
2007-02-18 23:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋