Hi,
I'm 16 and i've been dating my bf for almost 3 months now and we are like the perferct mate. I know i love him and we've both told each other that we love each other. But when ever i start thinking about the future, like him coming to my cottage in the summer, i get scared. I start thinking "what if we don't last that long, what if we break up" What if. . . Wat if. . .Wat if! Is it cause i'm scared of wat could be happening? He my first bf ever so i don't know. All i know is i am in love with him but why do i have these doubts of the future? Please Help Me!!!!
2007-02-18 23:24:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well what if you die in a car accident? What if he does? Dont live in the future, live in the present and take things as they come. Its important to set goals for yourself in the future, but to worry about it will only cause you misery. Just dont think about it, enjoy the time you have now and you will be closer to him.
2007-02-18 23:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are confused about what love is. What you have is "puppy love". You're deluding yourself because you want so badly to have a bf and be In love. Your soul knows this is not the mature, true kind of lasting love, and it is from your soul that the doubts arise. it's normal.
Have fun, enjoy being together and doing things together, talking, playing, exploring the mind. Be cautions of any sexual behavior, because that can ruin your life if it doesn't "work out".
16 is an age of exploring relationships with many people. Don't force a confinement to just one person; you will miss out on so very much.
2007-02-19 07:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, I'm 22 and I've been with my guy for over a year and I still get those worries! I'm constantly delaying plans because I'm convinced we won't still be together when the time comes around! The good thing about this way of thinking, is that I'm always focused on having a good time together in the present. Don't stress to much about the future - you're young and you have so much to look forward to! Worry about the bad things when they happen, until then, they don't matter. Enjoy your time with your boyfriend as it comes.
Good Luck Lx
2007-02-19 07:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lauren A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are having those thoughts then there is probably already warning signs you may not last that you are choosing to ignore. When I was that young (lol only 10 years ago) I was convinced no guy was more perfect for me than the guy I was dating at the time. It didn't last with any of them. Then I met my fiancee and thinking about or talking about the future felt right and not scarey at all! Good luck hon, being a teenager in love can be hard at times but it shapes all your relationships in the future.
2007-02-19 07:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in love! It's a wonderful feeling, and you're scared of losing it. That's all. It's not the universe's secret way of telling you that you're not meant for each other.
Just take it one day at a time and don't worry so much about the future!
2007-02-19 07:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by lovetoplayfantasyfootball 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal to have doubts in a relationship. But int he end you have to remember how lucky he is to have you and the same for you. Then you have to make most plans with him just in case he has other plans.3 months is quite a short time which means you haven't been alone in quite a while. The fear you have is thinking how you handle being with him in the house(alone).you can work on this though. you have to start spending alone time with hima nd erase worries or fears you have.
p.sit is ok for a guy to touch you and stuff but you have a say on how far it can go.ok?
2007-02-19 07:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being worried that he might break-up with u is very natural. But just be zen about this subject. When that day comes it probably will turn out for the best. There's nothing to worry about.
2007-02-19 07:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mighitman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just insecurity that makes you feel that way. You need to see the positive things about yourself. Have self assurance that you are the best girfriend he will ever have, hopefully for you the last one he will have. Stop with the self doubt you are a special person or he wouldn't have picked you to start with.
2007-02-19 07:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by Mary B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first love is the best thing in life and could be the worst. dont expect too much in the future rather invest in the present, love him as he loves you, savor each moment when your together, because the present is eternal present, it would last forever
2007-02-19 07:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by Kyo_kusanagi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The future is in the future,
The past is in the past,
Enjoy the time you have together -- because ultimately that is all you can have for sure.
2007-02-19 07:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by ★Greed★ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋