My sister in law helped me with my baby shower. She was the one who did the games. My mom threw the shower for me. my mom Paid for pretty much everything. My sister in law started telling her what to do. She was very bossy. She started complaining to some of my family about how she put out 150 dollars for my shower which is not true. She made a blanket for the baby and just bought a few things for the tray game. She is now telling her whole family that she threw the baby shower put out alot of money and that I didnt even appreciate it. I told her thank you at the shower and sent out a card. Then for christmas she made a big deal about how much she paid for the outfit she bought for my daughter. She wants to help me throw my daughter her first birthday party. I don't need or want her help. How should I handle this how situation.
2007-02-18 23:17:04 · 18 answers · asked by megansmom06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
this is my husbands sister
2007-02-18 23:23:04 · update #1
I agree with everyone who stated she is looking for the attention. Even if you had a talk with her, I really don't think she would get it. If anything, she would make you out to be the bad guy. I agree, say thanks but I've got it under control and that this time you want everyone to come as a guest and enjoy themselves and not worry about anything...tell her that means a lot to you to do that. You may want to say the same thing to other members of the family so she doesn't think you target her. However, someday you are going to have to stand up for yourself because she will make your life miserable..she sounds like she's good at it. Good luck and hope the party is about your child and not about this situation.
2007-02-25 04:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Txgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi she loves all the attention doesnt she ?by helping you she gets to brag about how much money she has ,i would if i were you get your husband to have a quiet word with her ,about your daughters birthday tell her or get your husband to tell her that you and your husband want to sort out the party and if she doesnt like it tough ,she wants all the attention on her ,has she no life of her own?because she seems to be in yours alot ,your mom must feel a bit hurt by the way your sister in law was being at the baby shower especially when your mom paid for most of it ,be nice and calm with her otherwise she will use that against you as well ,good luck dont let her take over the party ,i think she needs reminding whose baby it is!!!
2007-02-19 00:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A one-year old doesn't really 'get' the whole birthday party thing so I wouldn't even bother talking about doing that. As long as your sister-in-law has such an obnoxious attitude, keep things low-key. A special cake with candles at home with you and your husband is really all you need to celebrate the baby's first birthday.
You can effectively short-circuit your sister-in-law's bragging by being the first person to publicly thank her for what a TERRIFIC help she was when she did help. You probably have to say that 8 or 9 times to satisfy her need to have everyone acknowledge her acoomplishments.
Then just tune her out. She doesn't think she's getting enough appreciation so heap it on and then put the issue away.
2007-02-26 01:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should politely tell her that everything is already in hand and the only thing she has to do is show up. The thing is she although she thinks that she is being nice by doing these things why is she then making out to others that she is doing far more than she is and in the process making you look bad.
Just thank her for the kind offer but say that on this occasion you don't need her help and in the future if she offers to help just say oh that really kind of you but either your mum or some of your other friends have already offered to do that
2007-02-18 23:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I"d be honest and tell her that she acted like a spoiled brat at the baby's shower and I'm not even sure I'll invite her to the first birthday party if that is how she acts in public. But that's just me.
2007-02-18 23:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't need or want any help. If she keeps asking just keep repeating the same statement over and over again until it gets thru her thick skull. Just keep repeating it like a mantra. Even if it sounds stupid. Just say it over and over to her on the phone till she hangs up. haha. That will get the point across loud and clear. People like her can handle that so don't worry about annoying her. Stand up for yourself and don't let her push you around. She only does it because people let her.
2007-02-23 03:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by goturanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your new sister-in-law is a sad case; she wants some attention. . . .actually, all of it. She has an inferiority complex and is overcompensating.
This woman will ruin your life f you do not learn how to handle her NOW. See a professional counselor and get expert advice on this. If gone right, your life can be salvaged, otherwise this woman is going to make you miserable.
2007-02-18 23:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan the party without her. Don't mention it to her, then send her an invitation. She sounds like someone you definitely need to avoid.
As for her telling the whole family those things, they should know how she is & doubt her word is true.
2007-02-18 23:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I would just tell her the you appreciate her offer but that you want to do your daughters first birthday all on your own . If she gets mad she gets mad. Sounds like there is no pleasing her anyways so don't let her ruin it for you and your daughter .
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