I got involved with a man who were sociopath..I was abused and used in relationship and I was so damaged and hurt from the relationship cuz i am a very sensitive person...sometimes i get so angry at myself for being so nice,loving and unwise..and ive been seeing a therapist ...most of days i am okey but sometimes when i think about him, i break down and cry..its been more than yrs, what should I do? my friends think he doesn't deserve a punishment because he's a souless, unhappy person who gets his enjoyment out of messing up with peoples head and he took away my soul and innocence..but he's rich and powerful..and his life seem much happier and better than mine..what do you think i should do? do you think life is fair? and he will eventually get what he deserve for what he has done to me? or should I be the one who gives me what he deserves?
2007-02-18 22:45:24 · 9 answers · asked by Kathy S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no such thing as *karma* as you put it. However a person will GET what they GIVE. It stands to reason. You give the rights things and you will be repaid with right things. EX: Love for love, hate for hate, evil for evil, lies for lies, and the list goes on and on. It is NOT karma, it is a fact of life. Hope this helps.
2007-02-18 22:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The profile of a sociopath is very clear, read the site below;
http://www.hss.caltech.edu/~mcafee/Bin/sb.html
The truth is that even if you were the strongest, wisest, emotionally insensitve woman alive...you still wouldnt have been immune. You were just unlucky in coming across his path. Maybe it was a learning curve you didnt need....however it will give you insight to help others that get in the same position. Maybe in the future you will need that knowledge?
He has a mental disability that cannot be seen. You were not to know AND its unlikely that you will meet someone like that again because they are fairly rare. Playing the victim for more years will be a waste of time.....because sociopaths have no feelings, their brain doesnt work that way....you would just be hurting yourself for nothing.
Keep with the therapy. Life isnt always fair but if you believe in Karma....then know that you set yourself up pre-birth for this life for a reason...to learn by it....not to kick your own butt.
2007-02-19 07:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is unfair the fact that he is a soulless, empty shell that can never experience any form of true happiness. His life is an illusion that will come crumbling down with sorrow and regret, if he's lucky. If he's not lucky, he won't know what hit him. He'll never know what this thing called life really was and he'll have squandered it away for nothing. You on the other hand are blessed with the gift of sensitivity and emotional intelligence. When you have a hard time in life it's because only you can learn from it and use it to appreciate the finer things. Lessons are given to those who can use them and make the best of them. You are destined for emotional greatness and happiness because you are open to it and you crave for it. He is doomed in a living hell. You should move on with your life. There is no lesson you can learn from revenge that you don't already know. Don't turn him into an obstacle on your way to completion.
2007-02-19 07:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Dennis K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let bygones be bygones. Look forward to lead a peaceful and meaningful life.
I had a friendship which dates back some 32 years. Only to be cheated and betrayed. I regret not having noticed that 32 years ago, but then what is the use to cry over spilled milk? Take it as a lesson and treat it as if a large dark cloud had just passed by you.
The days ahead will be brighter.
Cheers!!
2007-02-19 06:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by JP E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe in Karma. I've seen it in action many times. Basically what you need to do is concentrate on your therapy and putting this man and all the misery he caused out of your mind forever. Once you do this, and start working on your own self-esteem, you'll be happy, feel great about yourself, and this will result in you living a very happy and successful life.
Karma will catch all the bad people in the world eventually, and we as the victims of bad people don't have to do anything to get even for their actions. We just let Karma do it's work. While we get on with out lives and be happy.
2007-02-19 07:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have learned alot from this relationship and sometimes you allow someone to overpower you and abuse you because you want to love that person so much and you want to allow that person to love you. Do not punish yourself for being a loving kind woman, but the next time you love you will be aware of the clues you will see the signs trust me. Only when you have experienced this kind of pain do you become wiser and stronger. Obviously this man is not living a life of love and peace and appreciation and often these type of people are in torment. The power of his money has also helped him to become stronger and more powerful and egotistical. Do not waste your precious energy on wanting revenge. That will only make you emotionally ill. You have to say to yourself next time that there isnt a man who is breathing air who I will allow to take all my power, that there isnt a man alive who will use and abuse me because I am stronger, wiser and I will attract a healthy loving man next time because why? Because I darn well deserve it. Yes I believe in Karma and yes he is getting his everyday that he allows himself to hurt others, you see he will never have inner peace. You may be in pain but you will have inner peace once you allow the wounds to heal. You can be thankful to him for something, he has shown you what love SHOULD NOT be. So say a prayer of thanks that he has made you wiser. Do not waste another moment on thinking about him, do not spend your time licking your wounds. Say to yourself I am hurt yes but I am strong and I will be a better person for it. And I believe you already are. Good luck and be strong!
2007-02-19 06:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe in Karma.
That being said...the most important thing you can do for yourself is continue with your therapy and put him as far as you can behind you. Eventually you will become a happy and healthy person again. Worrying about him getting his will not help you heal. In fact, dwelling on him gives him the power to continue hurting you.
2007-02-19 06:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried to translate some stories about karma and put it here
www.11meditation.co.nr
just go to the page of karma, that may help you understand something.
2007-02-20 04:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be we can't be the judge.
still we get in return wat we sow today.
2007-02-19 06:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋