Yesterday my b/f and i went to Crail - a fast car show was on and people could do drag races! Anyway while we were there he seemed to get a bit distant. His friend and his g/f were there 2. I kept getting left out because i know nothing about cars. Despite that he would hug me and hold my hand but it just didn't feel like he meant it - as though he was only doing it because he felt he had to! Am i just being paranoid! Then on the way home he would start an argument over nothing! I think it was because he was tired but is that really an excuse to argue with me? What should i do? Ask him about it or just leave it and see what happens?
2007-02-18 22:44:17 · 19 answers · asked by Kaz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the fact that during an event that interested him...he made time to hug you and show affection...shows he cares. But we are all human. As a female we read into everything. As a man they wish we shared all their interests.If you love him and want to be with him your going to have to accept that although he is physically there with you sometimes he won't be mentally. Be patient. We all get exhausted and chances are since your dating you'll be exposed to it sometimes. Take a deep breath and try to enjoy your memories. Best of luck.
2007-02-18 22:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. You may be reading things into this . If he did not want to be with you, he would not have asked ou to go in the first place. Maybe he felt bad because he knows you were not really intersted in what he had planned for that day. If his distant behavior continues ask him what is bothering him ,ask him if you did something or if his feelings for you are changing. For now, however, let it go, wait and see what happens next.
2007-02-18 22:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by vivib 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your Lad's giving you the slow elbow, he's into motors, you aren't, If it's such a big deal to him then he'll be looking for a female that shares that particular passion.. and if you can't bring yourself to learn more about cars, then his "distance" will only widen..
you really shouldn't worry too much, stuff like that always gets between people, even if they love each other.. it's just a case of either sticking it out or calling it quits..
2007-02-19 00:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by arctic_sheets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to talk to him, you should always discuss how you feel in your relationship or you will end up resenting him. Maybe you we're feeling insecure due to the fact that he has an interest that you dont share but it seems as though he did still try to include you so dont feel too pushed out. Best have the chat anyway as its best to get these things out in the open.
2007-02-18 23:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him how you felt, then one way or another you will know where you stand. Better then trying to second guess him? He may have felt that you were not interested yesterday, but if you do not talk about it, things get blown up out of all proportion... I would of thought he diidnt mean to actually upset you?
2007-02-19 00:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're looking too much into nothing. If he didn't want to touch you, he wouldn't have. I wasn't there, so I don't know what the argument was about.
You seem to have a very low self esteem. Stop it. Be confident with yourself.
2007-02-18 22:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You carnt win with men. My bf went off in a huff with me i didnt even know what i did he completely ignorned me and left me to cry in his room until i got fed up and went home he didnt even stop me from going or ask why. Frustrates me so much. I think its just the way men are. I think it is something to do with their pride and they are afraid to share their problems and talk to us.
2007-02-18 22:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by glam123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 im and see what happends. if it gets solved then saty but if u cant work it out give another go and if the same thing happened i would end it with him
2007-02-19 00:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by devil at work 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it.
If he just lost his job he is going to be abit nervous & unhappy.
Assure him that you will do as much as you can to help him through this dificult time cos you love him & you want happiness for both.
Good luck
2007-02-18 22:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ask and see what happens, maybe its your head or maybe he is getting a little tired of not having his space and always having to hold your hand ...etc. give it time and act like it didn't bother you.
take some time to yourself ,and allow him to miss you . be strong and confident abve anything else
good luck !
2007-02-18 22:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by sonia b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋