This is really bothersome.
Three days ago, I slept with this guy I've been friends with. Most people who know me "Typical her, she's very comfortable with her sexuality and sees sex as another way to EXPRESS a feeling to some one"
Notice, I use the word express. I never use sex as a substitute for real emotion. I learned a long time ago that just because you hop in bed with some one, it doesn't mean they care about you. However, in my eyes, you don't have to have a romantic relationship either. Sex can express not only love, but also caring and trust, which is why I am comfortable having sex with friends and they always get the message.
Unfortunately, I found out a little too late that this friend has very intense, romantic feelings towards me. I would say so intense that he might actually love me in a romantic way. But he and I both know that a relationship would not work between us at this point because I don't reciprocate those feelings.
But wait, it gets worse...
2007-02-18 22:29:24 · 5 answers · asked by Shel K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a boyfriend, who I am completely in love with. I know, "shame shame on you!" But this is how messed up it all is. He's just as in love with me as I am with him, but when we met, he was engaged. And he feels the same way about both of us! So, we've been together for a while, but he's still with her. He says, "If she leaves me, then of course I will be hurt, but at the same time, I'll be happy because that means I can be with you, free of all obstacles." And I will not ask him to leave her, because I've been caught between two men before and I know how painful and confusing that can be.
So, the wonderful climax. Now that my friend and I have been together (and have no intent to end the intimacy, I'm afraid to say) I'm beginning to find myself falling for him. And dun-dun-dun! The plot still thickens!
I've known my friend longer than my bf and have always loved and cared for him. But now, it's a new type of emotion. Now, I find myself loving them both in the same manner.
2007-02-18 22:37:10 · update #1
My friend will also be leaving next month (he's a bit of a nomad and it pains me to say that he feels he has over-stayed his welcome here) but he swears, he will call me and write me every chance he gets. And I trust him in saying that. After all, he still treats me the same as he did before we got intimate, we just touch each other in a few more ways now. And he really seems to care (I say this because he didn't tell me I was beautiful or any of that other lovey-dovey stuff until after he bedded me)
And my bf is a long distance relationship too.
Oh, and just to let it be known- I feel like sh*t because I broke two of my highest morals in all of this.
- Don't get involved with a man you know is taken
- Don't cheat
Yes, I have morals. And I feel horrible for breaking them. But the don't cheat bit... For some reason, it feels right to be with my friend...
2007-02-18 22:44:19 · update #2
I don't think you have to pick, yet. You're not married. But I don't like the guy with the fiance. Be careful with your feelings.
2007-02-26 16:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thee is nothing wrong with what u r doing because the same thing is happening to you..stop feeling so guilty and enjoy...maybe u could have a 3some.
2007-02-27 06:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hecks no .. no offence but i think you should end it with the engaged guy wtf. ill be say if she breaks up wit me but yet ill be happy cuz im wit you. no he just a lil player n common on ENGAGED. n the other guy i think you should be wit him if he likes you i mean its just another long distance realtionship. but i think if you tell him ur feeling n stuff he might want to stay n be wit you !!! i think you said hes movin in a month that gives him time to think if he wants to stay n if u do be wit him u should tell him not to move but if he does well theres nothin u can really do. n since u are fallin for him i think in no time u wll be over the engaged dude [[who i think is no good]] he prb. has like 5 other gurls.
2007-02-26 22:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by yeekn0e 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend is playing you...if he really loved you he would let the other woman go...there's no excuse for his behavior...he wants to have his cake and eat it too...dump him and go for the friend...I know its easier said than done, but someone in your threesome needs to make a decision and sorry to say...that someone is you
2007-02-27 04:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
choose the friend. that is, if you truly love him. i mean the other guy still has her fiancee, right?
2007-02-19 07:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by rinkumi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋