Ive been going out with my mexican boyfrined for 4 years and he been getting physical abusive slapping me on my face repeatedly because I had some guy friends number on my phone. But i've know these people for long time . He always calls me a liar and say disrespectful spiteful words and putdowns.Just because of the phone number he acusing me of sleeping with all of them. He always have to me right , my opinions dont mean a thing .he trys to put all the blame on me but he did bad things but dont look on that the focus is always on me on what I did. He from mexico been here for 3 years and Iam from us . I think maybe we came from different up bringing . alot of my mexican friends told me they always try to be dominant controling and have that macho image . (a violent bully)I just dont understand why he change like that he never was like that / he transformed into a different person. he still try to call me he might try to come over if he cant contact me. what should i do or say to him?
2007-02-18 22:10:54 · 3 answers · asked by merry c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, in every culture, a man has to act macho because that's what this patriarchal society has created: men who are macho and women who are docile. However, as a Mexican person, I can tell you: most mexican men are not abusive. There are always those pricks that feel they need to claim their manliness. However, for the most part, many of them are nice, even if they need to be dominating. But, in America, we know that violence towards women is wrong. And if people from another country feel that beating up women is ok in this country, then they are wrong, too. I now its hard to let go of what you've known for four years. But, trust me, it will be better for you in the end. People think it's easy to just get up and leave, and to you, it may not be that easy. So, I urge you to take a plan of action: tell a loved one what he is doing to you. Visit a rape/abuse counseling center and they can give you the support you need to leave him and keep him away for good. Nobody thinks you're bad for being with this guy. They just want to see you leave him. And I can gaurantee you: his physical violence will only get worse if you stay. So, please google abuse centers and get help for this. You deserve much better.
2007-02-21 09:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by nicoleblingy2003 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of the guy!!!!! Tell him that's not the way REAL men handle their women. If he's illegal, turn him in for illegal immigration, and get him shipped back to Mexico. He's not worth your time, effort, or well-being. Tell him to stay away from you. If he doesn't get a restraining order against him. He's worthless. He's brow-beaten you so much that your self-esteem is probably pretty low by now, but you deserve better than what he's giving you. Again, tell him to get lost to leave you alone. Second, call INS on him and report him as an illegal (if he is). Third, if he bothers you, tell him you've filed for a restraining order. Fourth, call the police if he hits you again.
2007-02-19 06:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok why are you seeing him then if he is beating you up?
You must be turned on by him being so dominant, admit it. Some girls like it when guys beat them up, it is sad. You shouldn't let yourself be treated that way. Girls are attracted to dominant men, they like to be dominated, unfortunately dominant guys usually are abusive and can put you in danger.
What YOU SHOULD DO is to stand up to him! Call the police on him have him arrested for domestic abuse. He could get so violent he might kill you, ever think about that? This is not a healthy relationship, GET OUT NOW!
A lot of white men act really abusive too!
2007-02-19 06:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋