my ex left me, started seeing someone else, then ended it with her as said wanted me back, i told him he'd have to grovel first, he then went distant again, ive now started seeing someone else and my ex once again has said he wants me back and said he went distant again cos he got scared cos he felt once again i'd put rules on him, i 'like' my new guy but i still love my ex, went round his house last night to tell him id give it another go and found a valentines card from the girl he was seeing after me, saying 'to my boyfriend on valentines' he swears blind she is desperate and sent it to him, i want to believe him so much but i cant imagion a girl sending a card to a guy who dumped her to be single 'to my boyfriend' cards.
any suggestions
2007-02-18 21:54:35 · 20 answers · asked by sweetness 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd go for the new guy hunni. If your ex has been seeing someone else then he obviously didn't love you that much! Now he wants you back well i say f*** him! It's too late for that now! Why should you take him back after what he did to you? Plus if he has a valentines card from the girl and didn't want it why didn't he just put it in the bin or something? It must have meant something! I know it will be hard but trust me with this new guy the best part is still to come!
2007-02-18 22:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't play the games, you'll only get hurt, trust me, i've been there. Sounds like he's trying to use you as a rebound girl, not good. He already knows you love him, he thinks if he screws up you'll always be there no matter what, and you can just do it as a friend. Don't let him walk all over you. I know you love him but don't let yourself get hurt, if you can't handle him and his other girlfriends, just cut him out of your picture completely. Because you will get really hurt and will realize you wish u would have stayed away. I hope you choose the right choice.
2007-02-18 22:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by Foxy20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the main thing about the card is...he kept it. So it couldn't totally be nothing.
Personally the guy sounds like a flake. How long do you think it will take him to pull the same garbage he has pulled on you twice already? If you really don't want to be with your new boyfriend, break up with him, but don't do it for this ex.
2007-02-18 21:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guys seems like a bit of a looney, and seems that he doesnt really want you but doesnt want anyone else to have you either. Look at it this way, it ended with him for a reason, and he is still playing with you. Forget about him, his loss he clearly didnt appreciate or respect you. Give the new guy a chance and see what happens.
Good luck
2007-02-18 22:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you he wouldn't have left you in the first place.
It seems to me that your ex is a cheat & a liar.
If I loved a girl I would be sincere & honest with her & I would go any where & do anything to look after her.
That is what most men do for the one we love but we do not always show it. Sometimes we need a bit of prompting as we sometimes tend to forget.
We do however hate to be nagged, we do like a quiet life.
Best wishes for your future
2007-02-18 22:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd only go 20kms...max and even then it would have to be a very strong love/lust.
Yours? Nah.....give it up.....he already dumped you once. Thats a sure sign his love for you is not good enough to last a lifetime...so why bother? Just because he realised she wasnt as special doesnt mean he thinks you are either.....he's just doing an ego thing to ensure he gets sex somewhere and isnt left totally celebate for a while.
2007-02-18 22:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is don't go back to your ex!!!!!
He is trouble and wants the best of both worlds. I wouldn't trust him if I were you.
Stick with the bf you have and enjoy being with him. The ex sounds like a very toxic relationship and will only bring you down. good luck!
2007-02-18 22:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by simone c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have a suggestion. Get over your ex and stick with the new guy.
2007-02-18 22:02:37 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing u big time!!! She sent him that card because it's fact. Let him be!!!! don't let him make a joke out of you. Find a guy who will give u the respect u deserve.
He will only play you if you let him!!!
2007-02-18 22:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say move on, someone here is obviously playing games, and you dont want to be the one getting messed around with. stick with this new guy, you never know, you might find a better connection with him
2007-02-18 21:58:40 · answer #10 · answered by Marv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋