I have been seeing her for about 3 weeks, and met her from an ad I put up under casual encounters in the personals on craigslist.. I know if she hadn't started seeing me, it would be someone else. But in choosing to be a part of this adulterous relationship, I know I'm doing something wrong. It's tough though, cause we have the most amazing sex I've ever had, and talk about our lives like best friends. Am I hurting myself subconsciously, by trying to ignore the fact I'm doing something morally wrong? And if her marriage basically seems to be at it's end, why should I beat myself up and feel guilty at all?
2007-02-18 21:37:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
because you know it's wrong
when she divorces her hubby, then you can see her
she's using you
2007-02-18 21:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
If you are doing something that you consider morally wrong, you shouldn't be doing it. Her marriage may basically be at an end, or she is really good at manipulating you into thinking it is okay because of what she says. There are two sides to a story. You have only heard hers as far as how the marriage is.
Honestly though you should not be with her if she is married. It is making you into someone you sound like you do not want to be.
2007-02-18 21:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As Dr Phil would tell you, 99% of relationships that are created out of an adulterous situation as you describe are doomed to failure. Afterall, think of it this way, there is nothing to stop this woman from doing this to you if she left her husband and married you. Chances are, in time, she will become bored with you and do the same thing again.
I don't see how you can have a trusting relationship. The entire situation is built on a foundation of deceit, sex and moral turpitude. Don't take it to the level, the level of commitment.
2007-02-18 21:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
BECAUSE IT'S WRONG!! And you know it's wrong. You're just looking for someone to say it's ok. They're wrong too. She's married and she too is wrong. If her marriage is really at it's end this is probably the reason why. Not you in particular but for this reason in particular. Grow up. Get your self a single girl. Why put yourself through all this grief if you don't have to. Go see your mother and get a reality check.
2007-02-18 22:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by valducci53 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, no matter what role you play, adultery is wrong blah blah blah blah blah. You might be having great sex, but your guilt is telling you what you need to do.
If her marriage is truly over why not wait to continue the relationship until after she has left him? Don't you deserve to have a relationship with someone who is actually available? How does it make you feel to know that she is going back to her husband after every date or encounter? There is a difference between a marriage being basically over and it being truly over.
2007-02-18 21:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-04 09:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that the person you need to pull the focus in on the scenario is yourself. Forget her, she is responsible for her own actions and fate.
The question is, why do you want to do this? It sounds like you are feeling very guilty....whether you think it's logical to, or not. And, my question to you is.....aren't ya kinda disrespecting yourself?
If you are developing feelings for her, and it sounds like you are....please proceed with caution. You are taking a huge emotional gamble.
I think it wise to wait til she works out her marriage issues, before you continue to see her romantically again. Even after a person is divorced, they need time to re-align their focus .... or they could very easily find themselves in another relationship that is less than optimal.
Protect yourself, and keep yourself respect in tact. And, don't forget the moral and Christiann implications of all this. Of course, where you stand on those issues is your own business.
I hope this helps, and wish you the best. Good luck!
2007-02-18 21:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by treefrog 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You obviously have a conscience and know it is wrong. Just stop it. Don't be a part of something like this. Date single and unattached women - there are a LOT of good ones out there.
2007-02-18 22:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is cheating on her spouse now, probably she will you too. I know someone right now doing the same thing.
Only, she lied about her husband to make him look bad. If she is too much of a slut to even wait till after divorce is finalized, you can be sure your gonna be on her trophy list too.
Besides, what if she has disease?
2007-02-18 21:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i reached upont he most shocking revelation this weekend and i thought i should share it with you.
When you go out with a married person you are equating your self to death. while making vows they normally say tilld eath do us part. and at the moment youare the one who is comin betweent this couple. Rise beyond this need and go make a single girl happy. You might think you ar ebeing as discrete as possible but you are hurting more people than you can ever imagine
2007-02-18 21:41:52 · answer #10 · answered by cynnie 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't feel guilty. She is the one who chooses to do this, probably her marriage is not going too well, maybe she should get a divorce
2007-02-18 21:41:17 · answer #11 · answered by Steven Z 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋