People always have their opinions on you. Some are positive and negative. I am quite sensitive and it's very hard when i get critisized.. What should i say to myself to not get upset everytime i get teased?
2007-02-18 21:36:48 · 11 answers · asked by ramzi 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
First of all consider the source.
Have confidence in yourself.
You can not be all things to all people.
You can only be who you are.
You need to examine yourself.
if the criticism is true deal with it.
If not disregard it.
I personally do not care what people think about me. I examine my own self for faults and try to correct them
No one is perfect. And we should not judge other people.
Do not allow other people to judge you.
Let go of your ego and accept yourself
2007-02-19 00:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Positive criticism is almost as hard to accept as with negative ones. And it also depends how it is being relayed to you. Either way, criticism whether good or bad can hurt in one way or another, especially if you're a really sensitve person(like I am). It's up to you as to how you decide on handling them when they are given. You can use it to your advantage to better yourself, or you can feel sorry for yourself and let it keep happening.
Be it friends or strangers. There are those who are opinionated of others because it's genetic and is part of their true personality. They don't realize when they are being insensitive or helpful. You have to almost have to get into their mind in order to decipher whether what they are conveying to you is a positive or a negative act of the matter of opinion or teasing(whatever you want to call it), and then respond to it accordingly.
And then there are those who are just ignorant, because they are either extremely jealous of you, or they have a very, very, low self-esteem issue going on within themselves, or even just plain unhappy, and feel if they can target on someone who will respond to thier teasing , then it gives them that much more happiness and confidence while taking it away from you.
I don't know what the situation is with your teasing problem. It would help if you could say whether you're an a adult or teen, so that answers to your question could be better directed.
Whatever the case, be it opinions or teasing, if it causes you to want to act on it and change because of it. Make the change because you choose to, not because they want you to.
So when someone gives you thier opinion or if it be teasing, good or bad. Look straight at them with confidence, respond to what will make you feel good about yourself and walk away. It always quiets them up. And more than likely, they will no longer tease you or give you any more of their opinions unless you ask them for one.
People, no matter what age or social status, will always have thier opinions of you...and you of them.....
2007-02-19 00:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of being "above" them... because you are.
If you also find it hard to deal with helpful crtisism then try to think of it from their side (E.G "why are you doing X when Y is better for Z") some people take offense to this but the person saying it is just trying to help.
If it is "You're Fat" or something similar, then they are not worth your time... trust me... To deal with it.. try to think that one day that person is going to die.
You can be happy knowing that (its harsh I know, but at the time it should help)
lol
good luck!!
2007-02-18 21:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Spike2012 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be touchy type.Sensitive people feels for others and touchy ones focus on themselves only.Try to think about others more and positive opinions will start to pour in.
2007-02-18 22:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by kalabalu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im just like you....all you have to do is:
1.)dont take it as a true thing if it isnt or coz it isnt
2.) take it like a man dont easily be angry
3.) dont believe them instead just ride on with them
4.) dont get easily irritated or angry for if they find you like that they will get more liking it teasing you
5.)just laugh at it
6.) count 1-10 and think of these things i wrote beforre you react of their teasings
youll see it....it works very very much
2007-02-18 21:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by vandian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure because words carry means. So if someone is saying those products about me and to me it truly is undesirable it might want to correctly be extra probable to take position. the means of advice might want to correctly be a contender on your options. I even might want to buckle down and pray hostile to it and shun those human beings. even if it truly is relations i'm stuck listening to it and that would want to get conflictual .
2016-10-17 07:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignoring is the best thing there is. Or just show that it doesn't really bother you what they say. That will show them, that teasing you, doesn't hurt you or bother you, then they will realize they are wasting there time, and will stop.
2007-02-18 21:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say nothing. Don't give it another second of your attention. That's life: ups and downs. Just be a man and take it as it is, so you can move on.
2007-02-18 22:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by Rob Reality 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because some people like to make themselves feel better by teasing others.Just blow it off .If you know you are a good person in your heart then what others say about you shouldnt bother you .
2007-02-18 21:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
got an ipod or cd player?
put on your headphones and keep walking...
this works for me actually.. :)
if i didnt have my music, im pretty sure i'd die from criticism...
Im a black metal head... with "krazy" piercings, and i live in oakland, ca...
im surprized that im still lasting this long.. lol
2007-02-22 19:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋