It is a very lonnnnnnnng story, but I did it because I feel it may make him realise that what we are doing isnt fun anymore. Ive tried to tell him already that we should cool it because I was getting hurt but he keeps dismissing my feelings. I figured if I told him something like this he may back off. I really like him but I cant stay the bit on the side and seeing as I could see it wasnt going nowhere because he is already involved with someone else I guess I had to go to drastic measures. What do y'all think?
2007-02-18 21:24:22 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, I would like to hear the whole story just to understand why you would say that. I dont think you're a bad person, you just obviously dont know how to handle your feelings. What you said was very wrong, and it shows that your relationship with him cant be good for you if you say things like that. I think you should distance yourself from him right away.
Try and make yourself stronger when it comes to men and your emotions then you can have the courage to say no to a situation you cant deal with.
Stay strong
2007-02-20 03:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by buff1ne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would have been being honest and saying "I could see it wasnt going nowhere because he is already involved with someone else" been so hard? Instead you made a miscarriage story up? How does that make him back off? Unless your playing the "i'm emotionally hurt now back off" you didn't have to drastic you coulda just said ... F U your with someone else peace out.
2007-02-18 21:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by massure4hire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it has been said now, there is nothing you can really do...
Do I think you should of said you had miscarriage when you didn't? No!
1. You obviously don't know the emotional feelings that are attached to miscarrying - and i pray you never do.. Its like saying someone close to you dead when they didn't....
2. You don't want to be with them.... Then leave! Change you number, tell him where to go, find someone new, get on with your life... Making something like that up, isn't going to make him change his feelings over you...
Actions speak louder than words - your obviously (consciously or subconsciously) doing or acting in way for him to be treating you like his bit on the side, until you change that, you will remain his bit on the side.
PLUS WHY ARE YOU HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX WITH A MAN WHO HAS ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND??? Sort yourself out!
2007-02-18 21:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by ஐ♥PinkBoo - TTC #1♥ஐ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You couldnt have just said back off??? you had to cause unnecessary pain?
I feel sorry for you because you obviously need help if you make up crap like this, and the fact you are willing to go after a man who is in a relationship! Seriously are you allowed out on your own???
I hope you never realise what it is like to have a miscarriage and have your man cheat on you - but you know what they say about karma dont you?
If you dont want to see someone why do you answer their calls and arrange to meet them? Its not rocket science
And you expected him to drop you after you said that - what kind of man are you willing to sleep with?
2007-02-19 03:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you already know that deception is wrong. Lieing about a miscarriage is very juvenile though you seeing him "on the side" is obviously the bigger problem here. You should stop that immediately and start making better decisions in your life. You'll find yourself much happier that way. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-18 21:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sinurgy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong and pointless. He doesnt love you and a guilt trip isnt going to change that. What makes you lie instead of just saying no or go away? If you really want to demean yourself, start paying for sex, if you need it so badly...many guys have a big willy and are good at sex...so its nothing special.
Lets face it.....your self-esteem is shot and you are frustrated. The quicker you lose contact with him and meet new people...the better you will feel. You dont have to explain to anyone why you dont want to date them anymore.
2007-02-18 21:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
impressive of your husband to deliver the type of psycho into your lives. You look very understanding. She does no longer be in a position to legally supply up the child without permission of the daddy. Any respected adoption organization and legal professional will understand that. Ask for the reality. medical archives, permission to speak to her medical doctors and larger in case you quite want the reality. i'd enable it stay with the adoptive kinfolk. a lot less drama to address. Ask when you're approved to write down a letter to the child which she will study later in existence.
2016-12-04 09:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell the truth.
If he is in a relationship then you should find someone else.
I suggest that when you meet someone else dont get into bed straight away, make him wait & want you for you, then maybe you will find happiness.
Be honest in a relationship & expect honesty in return.
Its called growing up.
Good luck & best wishes for your future
2007-02-18 22:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did sounds a little needy, you expected the guy to say 'oh it's alright I'll look after you.' He is involved with someone else so that should be the end of it, bedsides, he's cheated on his girlfried so why wouldn't he cheat on you?
2007-02-18 22:35:54 · answer #9 · answered by floppity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all know what happened to the boy who cried wolf! It's very wrong to say things like that as you wouldn't like it to happen to you for real. Just think of all the people who have suffered tagedies like this.
My advice about your fella, tell him that you don't want to just be his bit on the side and that you like him and want to be with him. If he doesn't want a relationship, at least then you'll know.
2007-02-18 21:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋