She's been having problems because her boyfriend broke up with her, and been talking to me about it, and i've had to dry her tears hundreds of times because he keeps hurting her more and more.
And i've been in love with her for ages now, and just don't know how to tell her that I love her, or if I even should bother.
Any advice on this?
2007-02-18 21:03:14 · 15 answers · asked by Montague_06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i wouldnt tell her now, i would just be there for her, and try your hardest to get her to understand that the other guy isnt good for her, take her out on a date, as a friend and show her what a good guy you are let her get over her ex and then when she's stopped crying over him, that will be the best time to tell her. for now the best thing you can do is be a good friend and be there for her.
and whatever you do dont let her get back with the boyfriend, if she tries remind her how many times hes hurt her and how much it hurts you to see her so heartbroken.
2007-02-18 21:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by wwgurl06 1 · 8⤊ 6⤋
Give her time to get away from this loser.
Give her the time to get over it.
Then think really hard whether you are prepared to lose her?
Find out how she might feel about being with "a friend" before you make any moves on her.
Be sure that this is what you really want, friends are few and farbetween and relationships destroy friendships all the time.
It's too hard to go back to the way things used to be after it all falls appart.
But if you feel this strongly then you should not give up as you will always think about the WHAT IF'S and never know.
BEWARE
2007-02-19 05:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋
Maybe you could suggest to her that the 2 of you go somewhere or do something to take her mind off her troubles. If you do that enough she might see the light and realise being with you is a lot of fun. Then she will have the strength to get rid of the boyfriend for good. Don't pressure her with the 'I love you' stuff just yet. She is still going through crap with the boyfriend. Invite her to do lots of social things with you. Good luck!
2007-02-19 05:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by simone c 1 · 6⤊ 2⤋
She obviously has a lot of trust and respect for you. You should comfort her by telling her how you truly feel. I am sure that she would find you to be a wonderful friend. If your heart speaks the word "love" then tell her and mend her broken heart. By all means, do it. She probably loves you, too.
2007-02-19 05:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by gone 6 · 5⤊ 3⤋
you have to tell her how you feel. Beware that what you feel could be a result of proximity and not necessarily tru affinity. you should also be prepared cos she will feel betrayed by you and at some point think that you are taking advantage of her. i haev to ask you to console as much as possible right now then move away from her for a while.when yous till feel the same about her, you will have to reveal your feelings.
2007-02-19 05:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by cynnie 4 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I would defently chat to her about it.. be open to your feelings if she tells you that if you both were to get together then the break up would be messy and you wont be able to be friends - then she just wants you as a friend full stop. If she seems open to it then go for it - but don't do it if she is upset over the other guy - ever heard of rebound???
2007-02-19 05:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by waltzing matilda 3 · 4⤊ 4⤋
My best friend told me and he swept me off my feet.I never would have thought HE could bring me such love and happiness.What is the worst that could happen?She would know how you feel...Sometimes people need seeds to be planted.And I mean it in the best way possible.Let her know and see if the seed grows.If not-at least you don't carry the feelings to your grave.
2007-02-19 05:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by doshidoe 2 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Do you want to always watch her in the arms of another man?
If you tell her, you might be the man who wakes up next to her for the rest of your life.
If you say nothing, you get to watch another man take her home.
What is she really worth to you?
Think carefully before you talk to her. Make sure that you say the perfect words. If you do it right, you will win.
2007-02-19 05:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 4⤊ 4⤋
keep being her friend-that is what she needs right now.you telling her that you love could cause her to fall for because she is hurt.you can show her in different ways that you love her instead of telling her right now.try asking her for sometime for you spend together.enjoy more activities w/ her.she might see your affection for her.
don't push too hard right now.
2007-02-19 05:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by BaDonkaDonk 2 · 4⤊ 3⤋
She may just need to hear it right now. Like it or not, she needs to look out into the horizon, and if you happen to be right there, she won't have to look too far now, will she?
2007-02-19 05:08:25 · answer #10 · answered by sweet doll 2 · 5⤊ 3⤋