how can some people hurt their kids, or let family members hurt and/or abuse them?

Answer 1

This question has a lot of answers - it varies from case to case.

Many times the parents themselves were treated the same way as children and it is just what they know and it doesnt seem wrong or excessive to them. People from different cultures and countries have different ideas on how to discipline and what may seem extreme to you maybe the norm where they are from.

Also when people get involved w drugs or alcohol it has very significant effects on how they interact w thier family/children.
Often Domestic violence starts to occur in combination w substance abuse.

There are also many famalies that are under a lot of stress due to financial or other reasons and sometimes someone just "snaps" - this would not be an on-going issue in the home but one really bad day.

Sexual abuse like domestic violence tends to be something that has been happening in a family for generations and many child molestors were molested themselves as children. It just one of those things that if it happens enough to you you seem to pass along.
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Answer 2

This question has been pursued for centuries.

The emotional dependency of family members on one another (like a battered wife on a spouse) can lead a lot of people to do selfish and horrible things to maintain that sense of connection. Exerting the power of an adult over a child (including sexual) also gives the abusers a sense of absolute control and domination when it cannot be found elsewhere. They are acting out on a desire to regain control.

The horror of the abuse is only magnified by the satisfaction of the adults who perpetuate it. Their rationale is disgusting in every regard.

Answer 3

Verbal abuse can scar a child for life. Constantly reminding someone that they are "dumb" or "worthless" while growing up can retard growth and maturity. It can give a child a lack of self-esteem. Also, if it is obvious violent or sexual abuse, I would say call the authorities if you suspect it of anyone, whether true or not. It's better to have it investigated by law enforcement than not. Don't play around with pedophiles. Anyone who harms a child in these areas deserves to be noticed by the Police.

Answer 4

This answer pretty much covers it all:

Low Self Esteem.

Don't ever date anyone with that issue and as far as a parent hurting their kids, same deal. Things like this tend to pass down from generation to generation.

I'd be skeptical about dating a girl that is/was absed by her parents, unless she is able to "break the chain" of abuse and move forward.

Answer 5

Its all to do in raising them. You bring them up with vile abuses and curses then you have vile mean children. Likewise with that generation that continues to do the same to their kids, and so on.

I am born from a good family with values. I am from India. They raise kids to be accomplised and smart and to earn well.

Now we take care of our family and we never cursed them since they never cursed us. Now I am a gem to my husbands eye and our kids can trust us to care for them truly and deeply.

That is the psychology of life. One bad word can strip a hundred years of kindness.

Answer 6

i think its low self asteem as well , most of the time its the way the person was raised ,thats the reason they turn and hurt small children ,also they think in there cold dark mind that they have power of smaller people.they cannot seem to help there self thats why there harmfull to the world.they all need to piled up and beaten as well

Answer 7

This is one I will never understand.My mother did this to my sister and brother as well as me.They both swear I got it the worst but I felt she mistreated us equally.Her situation was a bad childhood.It does not excuse the behavoir but it was what she said.I would think one would learn....
I could never do that to my son.He is my world and he sees it,hears it,and loves it.

Answer 8

i was abused by my family members in every way and they still didn't change

Answer 9

because they do not understand how precious kids are.Also,they probably do not know the difference between discipline and child abuse.