I WAS SEEING HIM FOR 7 MONTHS, WE WERE SO CLOSE. BUT BROKE UP BECAUSE HE DIDN'T WANT ANY SERIOUS COMMITMENTS RIGHT NOW IN HIS LIFE AND FELT THAT HE WOULD BE A BETTER FRIEND THAN LOVER AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME, AS I DESERVE 100% HONESTY, COMMITMENT AND ATTENTION. SO I HAVE TRIED MOVING ON I HAVENT SEEN HIM SINCE THE BEGINNING OF JANUARY AND HAVEN'T SPOKEN TO HIM SINCE 2 WEEKS AGO WHEN HE CALLED ME TO ASK HOW MY NEW JOB WAS GOING AND HOW I WAS ETC. IT IS DRIVING ME INSANE, I AM GOING AWAY IN 2 WEEKS TO BARBADOS AS I NEED A BREAK, I KEEP CRYING ON THE WAY TO WORK, IN MY BED, AT WORK IN THE TOILETS. IT IS KILLING ME, WHAT CAN I DO TO BE GET OVER HIM AND BE HAPPY??
2007-02-18 20:52:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear J.O.
As the saying goes, Time is the best healer of all.
You love him but he does not love you to the same degree. He mentioned that by saying "No commitment".
You have to tell yourself: "No one is worth this much agony when it is not reciprocated to the same amount".
Concentrate on your work. It is a new job. You need to work hard to establish yourself here. You cannot afford distractions like this.
So, get over it and do the job at hand.
2007-02-18 21:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess forget and move on is all that you can do.... Sit back and think... If you have not benefitted anyway from the relationship, its easy for you to make up your mind to forget... If you have always had a good time and if its the other person who has broken up with you, dont you think that also makes it easier for you to forget the other person.... If the person doesnt recognise your love, is he/she worth the tears at all??
Always easy said than done, buddy.... its all in your will power....
So make up your mind, and chalk out a plan that will make it easier for you... No one knows you better than yourself.... So only you can really figure out what would bring your mind at rest!! Cheers mate! I have gone thru this too, and its only my stubborness to forget that brought me out of it....
2007-02-19 05:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by Crazy Crab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the saying goes, if you fall off of a horse, the best bet is to get back on the horse and ride!
No One is worth that much crazy-making! The initial heart-ache may be tough, but once it's done, it's done. Move on and NEVER allow anyone to try to get you back with this person...it's not worth your sanity!
2007-02-19 04:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by sweet doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping busy and your mind occupied with other things is a good way. Make a conscious effort to do this. I've found the best way personally is to hook up with someone else
2007-02-19 04:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly Kisses ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell you somehing grl. he is not worth it. today i just found out that my ex boyfriend of three years has sex with another girl. they will tell you that they love you, you're the only one ect... all they are doing is sweet talking you. i am up at 5:00 in the AM. i haven't slept yet. i can't stop crying either. we girls need to stick together. you should think of all the horrible things that he's done to you. i am young. like i said three years i was with this guy. but i have to think of it as ONLY three years of my life. i more ahead of me. i see him all the tim in school. how do you think it makes me feel when i see them kissing in the hall??? you have to realize that he has moved on. and clearly you should to. you have to say to your self "i deserve better". and you do. we don't need ppl in our lives that think that they can come crying back to us when they are ready. they want to sleep around? well.. then they don't have any morals. if he really loved you then he would of atyed with you. if he really wanted you, he would have called earlier. obviously he doesn't want you. he's just another jerk. you get to thiking that 'he is different". but iniside, they are all the same. honey you have to get your mind off of him. don't think about it. and you sure as hell shouldn't call him. that will make things even wose. everytime i think about him i cry too.. i know how it feels sweet heart. but you have to look passed that and think of all the things you have to look forward to. it has been a month since me and him broke up and i CAN NOT get over him. but i know i have to because i know he's moved on.
i hope this helped... if you ever want to talk again then e-mail me at
divingallout@yahoo.com
everything will be ok. you get stronger evertime time that you don't give in. "it's about picken' yourself off up the ground when you've been knocked down.. we carry on when our lives come undone. we carry on cause there's promise in the mornin' sun. we carry on... we were born to over come... we carry on.." tim mcgraw- we carry on.
2007-02-19 06:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by can'ywait2getoutofhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain never goes away, It just gets easier to deal with over time.
2007-02-19 04:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by Halena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's the way it is.
You can't be happy loving someone who doesn't love back.
I had similar happen to me,
All you can do is move on, love yourself & life, hope for a special someone one day.
That's all you can really do.
2007-02-19 04:56:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go speed-dating. Or do nothing and just wait three years.
2007-02-19 04:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by lawomicron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋