anybody is looking after their elderly parents? please share your thoughts
2007-02-18 20:42:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You shouldn't even be asking this question.
If your mother is as old as you make it seem, then it is your DUTY to look after her. If she had thought that you'll be a burden to her as a baby, she could have dumped you in an orphanage.
2007-02-18 20:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you have a granny flat or separate area...so you can have your own life too. Its great when couples with or without kids can take care of an elderly person. However....if you are single and looking for a mate/family of your own....it doesnt bode well for romantic connections....so you could be condemning yourself to a single existence until the parent dies....how lonely would that be for you?
I did take on my parents..into the granny flat after Dad retired because mum had terminal cancer. It was fine...they left me be (I have 3 kids) most of the time....and only interfered occassionally and did babysitting once a fortnight. But she lingered on for years, passed away last year and Dad has taken root for good...so it seems. Now he wants to become the father figure and watches our every move. Its very disconcerting because Im a very independant woman.
If you want a love life...forget it. If she has no friends, forget it....she'd be better off in a place that has many people her own age to talk to. If she has plenty of friends, gets on well with you and space for herself...try it. Remember that once they take up residence its very hard to get rid of them, without mortally wounding their feelings.
2007-02-18 21:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took care of my mother for the 18 months before she died. This worked out very well. However, neither of us are demanding people, so we got along just fine. The one thing you do have to be very careful of is making your mother feel as if she is a burden. Don't get her into your house and then resent it. She will feel lost and powerless and it will damage your relationship with her.
It is a hard thing to do, but I think it is very rewarding.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-18 20:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are able to I see no reason why not....after all she took care of you, when you were little day and night....through colds, bumps and bruises, fed you, clothed you, tucked you in at night, etc.......now you can be there for her......
2007-02-18 20:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my mother was a live, she live next door, i was the oldest, an i belive it was my job to see she was care for, rember, she gave up a lot for you, when you was sick, she was their, ,she your mother,,,an honest i wish she was still around to care for her again
2007-02-19 00:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋