I get nervous around most people that im not familiar with. I hate it but its become normal for me to act this way. I need to stop but i never am able to. I avoid people whenever possiable. I would rather be the person that can be friendly with everyone but i allways feel like people are judging me or i dont measure up.
2007-02-18 20:34:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's a good start how you have pointed out what your problem is. Don't be afraid to assert yourself. I discovered that whenever I hide, my fears will continuously build up.
People also tend to judge you when they don't know who you are. Because you are nervous around strangers, you cannot be yourself. Therefore, they will never get to know the side of you that you want people to get to know. And it seems like you are a great person, because you say that you would rather be the person that can be friendly with everyone.
Never feel like you don't measure up. Life isn't about trying to live up to someone else's expectations. It's about setting goals for yourself and accomplishing them. And through that, hopefully, you will discover and experience thousands of occurences that will help shape your true self.
I hope that helped.
2007-02-18 20:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by aebutton44 1 · 22⤊ 0⤋
There are several ways to assist in getting your confidence back up there.
Put yourself in control of everything within your sphere of influence. Try hanging out in the place where you're getting to know people so you start to think of that space as "yours".
Avoid being rushed or distracted when talking to someone. If you start to interupt your breathing patterns you'll find that your thinking can become rushed.
Use deep breathing to calm your body.
Be generous and eager to share with new people. They're probably just as nervous but are using similar techniques to cover it.
2007-02-18 20:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by benjaminbrum 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey i understand how you feel! Well at least i understood what you felt at one time. The thing that u have to remember is everyone puts their pants on one leg at a time. Just say what you feel. Most likely people will be interested and either agree which will make you feel good that you made a valid point or disagree which will automatically start a conversation. See if someone disagrees you can explain your point and they will explain theirs. Then the conversation will go on from there. Trust me once you get in the habbit of doing this you will forget the nervousness and eventually fit in. Why? You are doing what everyone else is doing and that is speaking your mind!
2007-02-18 20:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
That is like Social Anxiety. I go through this everyday. How old are you? I am 22 years old (almost) and I have been like what you have just described all my life. When I first meet people, I feel judged. May be they think I am arrogant, because I find it difficult to smile and just seem sociable. But as time goes by the 'shy' label gets stuck to me and they realise I am not so arrogant afterall.
All I can say to you is that it gets easy as time goes by. At least you've come out with the problem and the best thing is to address it. Its easy for people to just tell you to talk. Take your time, don't pressure yourself. You can start by going in to a shop and asking for something it doesn't have to be long coversations.
2007-02-18 20:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by Magic 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You should be confident of what you are doing. You should be cool while talking to others and not underestimate yourself.
2007-02-18 20:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by rohit_gochi2002 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I suffer from these same feelings. The fear of not being accepted. It sucks. It can also be associated with depression. You can also be put on anti-depressants too, to cure you of these awful, nervous feelings. - Talk to your doctor or even a therapist.
2007-02-18 20:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 7⤋