I am very sensitive. I sit and cry for everything. I can't take if someone criticize me. I get very upset and sad if someone gets angry on me and if someone teases me. I am not able to take any thing lightly. Secondly, I am really confused in taking decisions, I just don't know which choice to make. And thirdly I am really nervous in everything.What am I supposed to do? How can I get out of this? How can I change my character?
PLEASE suggest. I need your help very badly.
2007-02-18 20:31:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
No one likes being criticized or teased - this is quite normal. However, being overly sensitive and crying at the smallest things could be an indication of something else going on. Start to notice whether or not your crying is a response you taught yourself in order to deflect unpleasant feelings (such as criticism). If you notice that your state of being upset and teary has "saved" you from an uncomfortable situation and brings a sense of relief, then you may want to see if you can teach yourself to stand the criticism instead. When you start to cry, fight it, don't let it happen and see how it feels. Sometimes crying is an organic response to emotions, but other times it is a learned reaction that is more strategic than connected to real feelings.
Here is a good phrase to remember: "To feel self esteem, do esteemable things." Make a list at the end of each day of your accomplishments -- things you did that you feel good about -- and things you like about yourself. Read it before you go to sleep and keep it next to your bed. In the morning, look at the list and know you are a good person.
Regarding decison-making... sometimes any decision is better than none. If you are confused by too many choices, stop thinking so much about it! Often times, our best choices happen intuitively without much thought. So to train yourself to make choices this way, pick things "randomly." In other words, let's say you have three choices. Write them down on three different pieces of paper and put them in a shoebox or hat, whatever. Close your eyes and take a few nice deep breaths. Be still inside yourself and know that instinctively you will make the "right" choice. Then reach in and pick one of the papers. No do-overs or second-guessing allowed! Make the commitment to follow through on your choice, which was made when your intuition guided your hand. Practice this on issues that are not so important and then advance to more important issues. Eventually you will learn to trust yourself and begin to choose better on your own, without reaching into a hat.
Best of everything to you!
2007-02-18 20:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by geoxena 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The same happens to me but not so extremely the best thing is to divert ur mind to some ineresting topic.To takea good decision consider the odds and evens carefully.Just be ready to face what comes dont get nervous for u cant alter fate.think of the positive outcomesI m sure u can change ur character if u try hard .Forget the wrongs of the past but learn from them think of a better future man.Life is short ENJOY!!!!
2007-02-19 04:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by initial man 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like depression. I suffer from these same feelings, honey. I know it can be hard. See a doctor. Tell him how you feel. Maybe he'll put you on some anti-depressants. It will make you feel a lot better.
I recently had to stop taking my anti-depressants (health insurance ran out), and I can tell a huge, horrible difference in the way that I feel. I cry ALL the time now, when I never did while I was on Lexapro.
2007-02-19 04:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Geoxena is right.
You can avoid confusion by being organised or prepare whatever you need to do or present in advance. Of course you cannot do this for every conversation you will have with everyone.This will give you a little more confidence and reduce nervousness.
Once you overcome confusion and nervousness you will have more success with your sensitivity.
Dont worry. You will grow out of it with time and lots of effort from your side.
All the best!
2007-02-19 06:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by Star of the Sea 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not alone. Someone I love has the same problem and the more I try to understand it and help, the worse it gets. All I know is that with small baby steps it's getting better. Prozac helps, alcohol hurts. Hobbies and excercise (endorphins) help, and talking about it with someone who has less patience than I do to be patient and listen helps. And then talking about it helps. Self improvement is the best. Doing things that boost your personal self-esteem.
2007-02-19 04:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by You have 22 characters 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
See your Doctor or a mental health professional. You may be experiencing Bipolar disorder. Also try to find some kind of group counselling. Your doctor can help you with this. Most mental health professionals provide lists of groups, and some even hold sessions of their own. Good luck.
2007-02-19 04:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by penelopejanepitstop 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing to worry about, use the Homeopathic remedy PULSATILLA in 30 potency thrice a day half hour before meals and you will get over it very quickly and totally without any side effects or Complications. To read more abpout this remedy please click the link below :- http://homeoint.org/books/boericmm/p/puls.htm
Take care and God Bless !
2007-02-19 05:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Soul Doctor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋