am gettin married this week, and ours is an arranged marriage, i had only seen him in chat and in photos and he looked ok.
but recently i met him in person and i have to say i was disappointed. and then he started talkin to me, and it all seemed fine, and my disappointment sort of faded.
not to be boastful, but i do look very pretty.
since he met me, he has been askin me how come i agreed to marry him since he is not a match for me.. he asks jokingly, but i kinda feel hurt when he does so, since i really do like him.. regardless of his looks.. and i dono wat to say when he asks that question.. and am worried that my not respondin might give him the wrong impression that may be i don really like him..
i ve told him many times that i like him as he is.. is he being insecure or jus funny ? although i don think its funny...
and how can i assure him that i love him no matter how he looks ?
wat do i tell him if he brings up this issue again ?
2007-02-18 20:27:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he actullay told me that i am much more beautiful than he though t i would be and is wondering if my parents are forcing this marrieage against my will..
2007-02-18 20:52:01 · update #1
Tell him that there is no other man you would want to be with. That he is exactly what you want. Show him you love him and care about him. Do not mention his looks at all. I am sure he is not completely unattractive, as you would say so. He may be a little insecure about his looks, but there is so much more to him than just that, just as you are so much more than just a pretty face.
2007-02-18 20:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u are as pretty as you say u are, then u can't blame him for not feeling like mister CHARMING! However, 2 make his "not matching up to u,less of an issue try not to divert from it,accept it. Dont tell him that he looks fine, tell him that u are attracted to guys with his kind of imperfections, and that it hurts you to see him degrade the man you love.
2007-02-18 20:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur an indian aint ya ? first how do u guys marry someone u don know ??????and if u rreally like him shouldnt bother u
how he feels or thinks if hes insecure bout how is looks r wateva n u still wanna be with him... jus tell him to get over it n be more secure cause he needs to.. hows he gunna deal with a marriage if he cant deal with a woman that actually wants to marry him inspite of his insecurities..............if he brings it up again......... ask him does he wanna be with u or not? or hed rather u told him how ugly or wateva he was for him to feel comfy lol
2007-02-18 20:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by I V X 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he is very handsome to you. Try complimenting him more often, don't go overboard but occassionally say something to help build his confidence.
2007-02-18 20:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋