I'm 28 and there's this 34 yr old man I've been seeing since September last year. This valentine he didn't make an effort to get me anything. He did not get me a present during christmas also which made me so upset - I excused him then coz he's originally muslim. I've asked him why and all he said is that gifts are material things not showing affection. In my past relationships I was always being bought for gifts which made me feel special. The worst part is that he can afford to buy these things as he's from a rich family and holds a high position at his work place.
Apart from this issue I appreciate how he has introduced me to his friends and family despite our totally different social backgrounds. He only pays bills and the like. Should I still be seeing such a person
2007-02-18 20:12:47 · 14 answers · asked by ♥¢♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are not happy - find something better.
2007-02-18 20:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by Frisky 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The bottom line is, he's not treating you the way you'd like to be treated so yeah, end it. He didn't have to buy you an actual gift. He could've taken you out to dinner or planned a romantic evening for the two of you. All religions aside, he's not being considerate in the least. If you're not happy about this, end it. Any man knows holidays are pretty important to women. It's the thought that counts, not the gift itself. Sounds like he's being cheap and thoughtless to me.
2007-02-19 04:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's possible that he is just unaware of how important these sort of things are to you. Obviously you're not asking for a present every day of the year but things like valentines and christmas aren't about material things, it's about showing the people in your life how much you love and appreciate them through thoughtful and personal gifts. I think you need to explain this to your boyfriend and let him know that those sort of occaisions are not about being materialistic.
Often, practicing muslims join in western celebrations like christmas and valentines day simply because they are times for showing people who much they love them. It has nothing to do with being materialistic or even religious.
2007-02-19 04:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not read too much into the non-gift giving. If he makes you feel special in other ways, then surely this matters more. It is unusual for someone to not indulge in gift giving but maybe that is the way he has been brought up. Only consider ending the relationship if there are no other positives in it.
2007-02-19 04:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by Prince 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
let me get this right... you want to finish a relationship because he doesnt buy you gifts.. even though he has explained why and you understand his reasons..... you know he is rich and you want him to spend his money on you..... he obviously thinks highly of you, otherwise he would hide you away from his family and friends.... if material things are all you care about then .. yes.. for his sake leave him.... money isnt everything...as long as he shows you respect and love in other ways then thats all that matters... good luck
2007-02-19 04:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
things are nice when they are not material.
if he shows you affection and love and buys you things every so often because he loves you then he's a keeper. holidays like valentines day are a bit silly i think, people should shower the one they love with affection all year round not because it's that day of the year when you have to...
2007-02-19 04:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Pat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships don't need to be based on material things, at all, its if it's real that counts, telll him that you like to recieve gifts as it makes you feel wanted.
2007-02-19 04:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The writing's on the wall...take note! Leave him...if his not paying any attention and keeps bringing up stupid excuse then you should leave him...not worth your time or day!
2007-02-19 09:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by Lihanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, go get yourself someone who knows how to treat their partner, never forgets those special occasions and makes sure that you know your their LADY
2007-02-23 03:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by decrepid1958 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a stingy and selfish person to me.
2007-02-19 04:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by a.c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes.material isnt all dat, maybe u shoudl tell him every now n den tog et ya a lil sumtin sumti.
2007-02-19 04:18:31 · answer #11 · answered by Your girl Cassie 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋