We are togather for 8 months.We started out becouse I had just finished a two year relashionship with someone I still love.he married someone else,although I knew all the time that I wasnt the only one.My present boyfriend offered me a stady secure relashionship.He is a very good man and he loves me.But all this time...I can't seem to fall for him.I often look at him and ask my self-what am I doing with this man,he is completely not my tipe,I can't imagine my future with him.I just love his attention and his reliance and I'm affraid to let him go now only from fear to be alone again,and I've been alone,it's not like I'm not used to it.I want a familly,but I can't imagine it with him.Please put your selfs in my shoes and tell me what would you do in my place.(I'm 32 ).Thanks
2007-02-18 20:11:09 · 16 answers · asked by skygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to let him go. Not only for you but for him.
2007-02-18 20:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by E-Razz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 32, going on fifty right. A lot of women are faced with this type of uneven relationship. A woman, of worth, once told me that her husband loved her much more than she loved him, but that he was of such sterling character that it didn't matter. She liked him just tons, and that was enough. Consider your alternatives. What kind of guy really floats your boat? Is such a dude even available? Would you get a guarantee of happiness from your dream guy? Sometimes you have to just bite the bullet, and know that it ain't gonna get better, and keep him, or blow him right out of the water, break it off 100% so he can get a life. Then plot out a action plan that at least will get you in the room with Mr. Wonderful... good luckl.
2007-02-18 20:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the best i can answer for you is that you can't keep leading him on, that would be wrong. You need to tell him that also. I understand your concern for this man, and i know you don't want to be alone either, but if you stay with this man, you will never be able to find the man of your dreams who you will love some day. And another thing, even if this guy is the one for you, remember, love takes time to develope. Just be patient.
2007-02-18 20:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by photo_girl_90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End your relationship if you do not love this person. Dont be afraid to follow your heart. You obviously know what you have to do....read your posting again...I think you pretty much have answered your own question. "I can't seem to fall for him".
I am 33 yrs old and was with my ex husband for 13 yrs. We finally ended it because we were not happy and we were not in love with each other. It was hard....extremely hard to come to the final decision.
But be thankful that you have only been with him for 8 months....thats only 8 months that you lost being consumed with worrying about your situation between the two of you.
2007-02-18 20:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have 3 options in front of you. 1. leave him but be gentle while doing so. 2. give yourself time. if he is a steady, dependable guy, go for him, love etc are just temporary things. you must take into consideration compatibility, level of understanding, whether your parents will accept him happily or not. 3. open ur heart n mind to the guidance n love of the universe and its positive energy. pray to God to show you the way.Cheer up!
2007-02-18 20:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your whole heart isn't in the relationship then do the right thing by yourself and by him and let it go. Give both of you the chance to be truly happy with someone you love and who loves you back. You're holding on for all the wrong reasons.
2007-02-18 20:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no love then you should leave. The thing is that after a while you will start having problems and with no love there between you too then it will fall apart anyway.
2007-02-18 20:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing, it's going to be hard, but if you don't see yourselves in a future together then leave him. It's going to take alot of strength but staying with someone just for stability may be the biggest regret of your life.
Take care, talk to him and try and sort your life! xx
2007-02-18 20:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to let him go. it is unfair to him and u might be stopping him from finding someone that will love him back. if u really admire the kind of guy he is then do the rt thing and let him go.
2007-02-18 20:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi skygirl.
On ur behalf there is no love between u but a relation lovelier than love i.e. friendship is there.So make ur feelings clear with him.Dont leave him such persons r hard & rare to get!!
2007-02-18 20:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sania 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do him n urself a favour.. leave him.. he obviously loves u but u dont... and by being with him ur leadin him on to beleive wats not there..... tell him how u feel.......cause ur jus havin fun knowin there's someone always there for u... him !! while he thinks u may actually feel somethin for him........... u need to leave him so he can find someone that does love him n cares bout him!!n ur not her !
2007-02-18 20:19:33 · answer #11 · answered by I V X 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋