theres this really hot guy in one of my classes! i can already tell that hes a major player but he always calls me sexy and beautiful and it always makes me fall for him. ive only heard him say that to one girl in that class and he called her sexy but i know she would never go out with him. hes a major flirt but not just to me. i know he had a 2 year relationship with a girl so he can commit. but im just scared to fall for him and him end up cheating on me. im not sure if he wants to go out with me. it seems like he wants to be friends with benifits. im confused. should i trust him? my sisters boyfriend was a player when they started dating but she changed him and now hes a one girl guy. could i change him like my sister changed her boyfriend? i like him so much and i dont know what to do!?!?!
2007-02-18 19:36:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your sister didn't change the dude he just got good at hiding or he felt it was time to settle down with one girl on his own.
You shouldn't fall for this guy.
2007-02-18 19:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay first things first... figure out if he really likes you or just wants some a** then get to know him better and date him and see if he seems like the type that would be willing to change because you can't just change a guy they have to want to change.. and it's possible that since he just got out of a 2 year relationship he may not be ready to commit again and is just looking to "play the field" so be careful and don't fall too fast and end up getting hurt! Good luck!
2007-02-18 19:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by jasmyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't change for a woman, yes sometimes they do, but the sometimes is the exception. Your sister didn't change her boyfriend (who's to say he isn't cheating on her anyway?), if he is commited to her it's because he had gotten to the point where he was ready to committ. As for the guy in your class, flirting is what players do, the point of the game is to make you fall for him. I'm sorry but you are not special to him. Look around, I bet there is another guy you know who knows how special you are, and this guy probably goes nuts when he sees the player flirting with you.
2007-02-18 19:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change anyone. No one can. That person has to want to change. This guy just sounds like a total flirt and you might be taking it too seriously. Has he talked to you outside of class? Ask if you had a bf? Have you seen him outside of class? If you answered no to those questions, he's just flirting and nothing more. If you want to ask him out, go for it. There's no sure fire way to tell if he'll cheat on you or not but, if he's a big flirter, he won't change that just because he's with you unless he wants to change.
2007-02-18 19:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha >.< terrible.. well frankly speaking, i am a player. im always flirting with girls, saying they are sexy and a nice person. but come to think of it, would i say things like that to girls i dont like? got it? yeah thats right, maybe he likes you too. but of course, some players never learn. some players know how to commit. and some players "play" just to show they're cool. well darling if im the one to be asked, be careful, if ever you fell for him, just be careful. sometimes the saying "a player would always be a player" is true. on the other hand, some of us changes. like your sisters boyfriend, like me ^_^ but almost all of us are just dummies that doesnt ever learn.
in terms of changing him with your own risk, there is a 25% chance. at least there is a chance ^_< but it is you who's gonna suffer for sure.. you dont wanna do that... >.<
2007-02-18 19:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by mikz_cute_08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Players can be a lot of fun. They usually prey on girls with lower self esteem (I was told by player Mike). They all want Mike, but Mike isn't interested in other than playing most of his life.
Also, Mike makes good money and has toys. Marriage would change that.
Mike like his weekly night out with the guys. Marriage would change that.
Women, take note, there is a value to him, you just need to know what would work. (and trying to chnage him is the last thing)
2007-02-18 19:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not change a person. He will only change if he wants to change. If he hasn't asked you out and all he is doing is flirting, he is probably just enjoying stringing you on. Just because he was with someone for two years, doesn't mean he was faithful to her. I say forget about him and wait on a guy that will be true to you!
2007-02-18 19:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by So_many_questions 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u let him take the iniative. he he is flirting, then let him be man enough to step his gme up a notch. if u let him know now how u think of him, he could use that to his advantage. just be prepared, one step ahead of him, and keep ur feelings on guard. dont be easy to give in to him. most men want a challenge so give it to him. let him work for it. no one can change. he didnt change cuz ur sister did it, he just fell in love with the right person to make him want to stop his doggish ways. give it time, let it flow. if he said these comments to this girl and said it to u too, just lay back and see the outcome. don't make urself seem too interested in him.
2007-02-18 19:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by cute_dimples2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Even Think About going out with a guy like that EVER !
and don't listen to what stupid girls are talking about his advantages, cause I'm so sure he's aiming for something else!
well it's an advice
Good Luck !
2007-02-18 19:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by Stan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
advise from personal experience: leave him alone. it will make him want you more if he really wants it that bad, and he just might change. But i wouldn't count on it.
Players might stop their game for some time (years..) and go back to it, it will set you up for a major heartbreak.
so i wouldn't mess with him. if he just wants the benefits: unless thats all you want (plus and STD possibly) don't do it.
eventualy you will be so jelous if he talks to any other girl, let alone calling someone else beautiful and sexy.
leave him alone.. for your own sake.. i promise!
2007-02-18 19:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by jpcjulia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋