i met this guy and we get along great! and in the past i have been very premiscuous, he doesnt know that, but after all that i dont want just the hit and run kinda thing, how do i sit him down and ask casually what we r all about? oh and by the way we have already .... "yeah" and we still talk and everything
2007-02-18 19:35:18 · 9 answers · asked by princess_prtty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i don't see how you've got a problem. The guy obviously wasn't in it for a quick root and the communication lines are still open so just ask him.
Tell him that your not looking for a hit and run and if he is then you need to know before you guys go any further and you get hurt. If he's truly in it for the long run then he'll have no problem talking to you about it and he'll tell you himself.
Good luck in your new relationship.
2007-02-18 19:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, I know just what you are going through. It is hard to read men sometimes. But it is a good thing that he is continuing to see you after being intimate. You don't say how long this relationship has been so far.
I don't think you should ask him what his intentions are. Just be your sweet self, don't be too clingy or demanding. And don't EVER feel the need to "confess" to your past indescretions.
When he starts wanting to take you to meet his parents, then you will know he has "serious intentions".
In the meantime, just enjoy his company, keep having a life of your own, don't neglect your friends and family, and take time to do things by yourself without him. Men always want what they aren't sure they can have, its all about the pursuit, which they love.
2007-02-18 19:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by romeoshannon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay well if you guys have already had sex then there is feelings there which is a good sign. Sit him down and let him know what you want out of the relationship but don't pressure him into anything and scare him away! Good luck!
2007-02-18 19:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by jasmyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have already done "yeah" with him you most likely are just "buddies" now if you want to be serious with a man and want him to be serius with you, you have to wait untill you hav the "title" befor you do it with a guy. yeah times are different but a real man wants a nice girl to take home to mommy
~why buy the cow if you get the milk for free?
respect is lost in the mans eyes. im not saying he doesnt respct you but chances are not as a girlfriend
2007-02-18 19:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by comacati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your, "Free Giving" is gonna get you in trouble or hurt. We can't tell you if this one is gonna last. Once he finds out, your past? No every one is able to handle that. You need to respect yourself, more. ans only except resoect, in return. He may not stick around, once he finds out. Next time, be more careful! Sex is Sex. Making Love is The Bomb! But you, (both) have to be in love. For that to happen.
2007-02-18 19:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he starts asking questions about your long term future, or how many kids you hope to have, etc.......You get the picture I think. And don't worry about your history. Just make sure you're making the right choice.
2007-02-18 19:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have what already?
Usually if someone plans to be around awhile they include you in future plans. How long have you been dating?
2007-02-18 19:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just plain and simple ask him what is going on between you guys....That is all you have to say.
2007-02-18 19:39:14 · answer #8 · answered by linsey_runnels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it when he puts a ring on that finger.
2007-02-18 19:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋