What to do with my boyfriend...?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for apprx. 5months and we are in a long distance relationship. I met him through his sister while I was at college and started to talking through email and phone calls. We decided to start dating and now it seems like he never wants to talk to me. We used to have such good convos but now we dont. When we around each other he holds my hand but doesnt want to kiss me. It think about breaking up with him but it hurts too much to think about that. I do not know where our relationship is going and it feels as if we just dont have a spark anymore. I love him so much but yet my mind wonders if I could really handle being with him for much longer. Is it the distance or have we lost that intial spark. He says he loves me all the time but rarely shows it. I didnt even get anything for valentines day until two mins. before it was over and even then it was a cute but lame e-card. I do love him but I dont know what to to do. Any advice would be helpful now...

Answer 1

honey, if you dont feel comfortable in your relationship, maybe its best to leave it before you fall even deeper than you have. you're already finding it really hard to think about leaving him but if you keep it up, its going to hurt even more..

i think also you should have a talk to him before you make any decisions just yet.. tell him how you feel, come clean.. its better than beating around the bush and keeping things all bottled up.. things might change if you dont tell him... maybe he doesnt know how u feel about all this and thinks its ok for him to keep acting way he is and not show u so much love.. he needs to know.. tell him tha u appreciate what he's done but you just dont feel like it was the same as before.. ask him if he feels the same and that you'd really miss how it was before..

seeing as its a long distance relationship.. it seems a little harder and you should be proud that you lasted 5 months.. thats a really long time!!! both of you find a time when you're free and meet up or have a long conversation on the phone about what each of you want and how you feel.. try to sort things out by talking to him so he knows how u feel and vice versa..

if he seems reluctant then tell him your not sure if u cant go on with it.. it'll hurt for the moment, but you'll be happier when you know you did the right thing.. my friend once felt the same way about the guy she was going out with.. but she didnt say anything.. turns out he felt the same way as her.. they both talked to me about it but didnt know how to approach each other so i made them each write a letter to each other about how they felt about each other and what they wanted from their relationship... and well they got their feelings sorted out.. sometimes its hard to talk face to face or even by phone so write it out and tell him...

if its still hard then tell him for the best of both of you that you probably cant go on because u dont want to be hurt and if you arent happy then he wont be happy.. so yeh, it'll be for the best anyway.. but talk to him!!! you never know, things might take a turn and change .. so expect the unexpected.. dont worry =]

Answer 2

This is easy. You need to read his actions, not his words. He's no longer interested. 5 months isn't long enough to lose any spark if that spark was real to begin with. Odds are, he's met someone else or he liked the thrill of the chase. Either way, you're not getting what you want from this guy. What's the point of a boyfriend if he doesn't show you affection or even want to talk to you. In reality, you two aren't really together so breaking up with him isn't going to be that much of a loss for you. It will hurt but you don't see him everyday and believe me, it's alot easier to let go when you don't see him. Out of sight, out of mind. Email him and tell him it's over. There's no need to talk anything out. His actions are all but screaming that he's no longer invested in the relationship and you're not #1 in his mind or heart. You deserve better. Let him go and move on. Find someone closer to you who can treat you like you deserve to be treated.

Answer 3

What is love? It's a four letter word with many different meanings. How do you feel about him when you think about him.Does he make you feel like you're the only one? It doesn't seem to me as though he likes you. Has he been spending all of his extra time with you, or does he forget about you? When you love someone it is all about them. No one else. If he holds your hand he cares. But kissing is the best way to show love. Even if it is tough love. Some day you will get it. The spark will be there and the fire of your eternal love will be ignited. When he kisses you and means it you will know exactly what to do. When to do it and where. You'll know exactly where your relationship will be going as soon as he does.

Answer 4

You need to tell him how you feel, don't keep it all inside,let him know that you feel neglected, in your situation communication is the key. You obviously love him and he probably loves just as much and he may be going through a phase, every guy does that from time to time. Just let him know how you feel and see how it goes from there,every once in a while a guy needs to be reminded just how great his girlfriend is before he can show appreciation. Wish you the best

Answer 5

if you dont love him so thats not a problem ,act normally ,or break before he breaks it will hurt less .

Answer 6

well i dont think you will even get a kiss goodbye from him.... he left a long time ago.. so sorry dear...........

Answer 7

I have no idea what you are trying to hang on to......give it up and move on....