Hey guys. I'm a junior in high school and I've liked this one girl ever since i saw her at the beginning of freshman year.The problem is i've never had a chance to meet her or talk to her cuz i have no classes with her... Anywyas I was wondering if you guys would have any ideas for how I should introduce myself to her? Or what I should talk about if I meet her? I know that for some people its really easy to meet others and introduce yourself. The problem for me is that I have really low self esteem and am really self concious. I'm not ugly at all but I often feel that I am, and I have no confidence in my body even though im actually pretty fit, got a six pack and everything, cuz im in cross country. Anyways thanks in advance for your advice, hope its really good!
2007-02-18 18:48:09 · 12 answers · asked by love the run 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get alone with her or call her on the phone.
Talk about stuff.Anything. Maybe sports, or the food in the cafetiria.
Relax. Take a deep breath.
Smile (even if you're on the phone). Remember that she will be flattered by your question.
Pop the question: '[name], will you go out with me?'
Relax, pay attention.
Listen to his/her reply.
Don't interrupt!
If the answer was 'Yes,' congratulations! Within the next 24 hours, let her know how much you appreciate her.
If the answer was 'No,' that stinks, I know. Respect her decision and talk with her about where to go from here, especially if you're friends.
Do something to make her feel special (send a card, give a flower, compliment her, write a letter).
Be confident. Believe in yourself!
Do not put your value as a person in their answer. If she says no, you're OK with yourself.
Know that there is somebody out there for you, even if the person you want right now isn't interested.
And dont be afraid to ask her out, whats the worst that can happen?
2007-02-18 18:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to be a shy person when I was in my mid-to-late teens, too. I ran track, played football, baseball, and was also an Associate Editor for my HS newspaper, and on the Student Council. I was kind of popular, but I was very shy. Some girls thought I was stuck-up, but that wasn't the case. After football games, girls would always run on to the field to "escort" the players back to the locker room area. No, not for THAT reason! It was kind of a tradition. Funny thing is I'd always get the less than attractive ones chase after me, and the ones I really liked wouldn't pay me any attention. So I was nice to any girl that approached me. I usually said "hello, what's your name?" and most of the time I'd have good conversation about "oh, you're in my history class?" Then we'd talk about other people we knew, mutual teachers we had, and all that. (It got around the female circles that I was a nice guy) And I eventually got up enough nerve to ask them out for pizza or something after the game. I was never rude and always friendly. Next thing is there would be some girls that I was attracted to there, too. They would see how nice I was to the girls that guys normally wouldn't hit on. I got a reputation for being a gentleman, nice, friendly, always smiling and joking. Then I went up to one of the girls and asked them their name, and things just clicked. I asked her to meet me on the field after the next game and for a date afterwards. I just built up my confidence that way. For you, you shouldn't have any problems. Just go up and introduce yourself, smile, and start a simple conversation. After awhile you'll know if she likes you, too, by her smile and laughter and so forth. Tell her that you've noticed her since your freshman year, but was too shy to ask her what her name was. Be honest. She's probably shy, too. Guys your age always seem to have low self-esteem. But that will give her an impression that you aren't arrogant or stuck on yourself. That will make her feel more at ease around you. Just develop a casual friendship by introducing yourself. Ask her if you'd mind if you got her phone number so you can talk more in depth away from school. You'll do fine. Just be patient with yourself.
2007-02-19 03:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you ever daydream about spending time with her, or imagine yourself with her? That's what visualization is like, and you can do that to increase your chance of feeling confidant when you decide to take the plunge and make contact. People who visualize positive outcomes often experience positive outcomes - this is a great exercise to develop a sense of self-assurance. When visualizing, be alone in a quiet, undisturbing environment, and consciously create positive images of yourself approaching her, saying hello, telling her your name, asking her hers, asking her questions like what classes she has, what music she likes, asking her if she likes any of the sports, movies, hobbies/activities that you enjoy (something in common may come of this). When you create these images in your mind, you're creating the neural connections that will come into play when you converse with her for real, and your self/psyche will feel some measure of comfort, as when you were seeing it in your mind. When visualizing, incorporate sounds, scents, and sensations (like ease, confidence), as the more real you make the images, the greater liklihood of the real thing proving to be as you visualized it. You can't control her response to you, but you can plant the seeds of influence over yourself . . . and presenting yourself successfully may bring you the result (her attraction) you're looking for.
Won't it be nice to hear that she's noticed you, and is happy you reached out? Get to it! Best wishes.
2007-02-19 03:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without confidence why would she like you? Even if you're hot?
Decide if you like yourself or not first.
If you ever pass her in the hall, make eye contact, and if she even looks at you smile and say "Hi." without stopping. You'll get her attention.
When a guy I don't know say's "Hi." to me, I assume he likes me or at least thinks I'm pretty. The other good thing is that it will give her an "In", if she wants.
2007-02-19 02:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by Havana Brown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out what she is into! Then start a conversation about one of her interests! Do you have a mutual friend? if you do, ask your friend to introduce you! Even better, just walk right up to her and be like, "Hey, what's up? My name is (Insert your name here) what is yours?" Confident guys are so cute!
2007-02-19 02:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by Kasey13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well be honest. if u see her be polite. say excuse can i have a minute of ur time or can i walk u to ur next class, or carry her books. if she say no, thats ur answer. but she she proceed then tell her ur name and why u stopped her. tell her how u liked her since freshman year. tell her somethings u noticed about her since noticin her 4 two years. if she seem interested giveher your number and tell her u would like to take her out sometime. if she calls she interested in that date.
2007-02-19 02:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by cute_dimples2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself! show her the real u.u said u got a nice built,she will definitely look at u if u make some move.goodluck!
2007-02-19 03:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by mitchy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude,i fill like I'm ugly as hell all the time. but girls think im cute. dont know why. anyways..just go up to her a say hey whats your name, like your curious or something. then go from there. trust me it always works.HEY!!!.. E-MAIL,OR IM ME LET ME KNOW HOW IT GOS. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-02-19 02:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to make sure that you are prepare for everything that will happen to you if she will give her reaction about it that is the first thing that you have to do and if you see her get all the available energy in you and say everyhting that you want to say... :-)
2007-02-19 02:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas Odin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her in the internet for a while and get to know her 1st, then it willl be WAY easier to talk to her in person
2007-02-19 02:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by hawtchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋