stay at home moms ?does /did ure husband help out with taking care of your child?

Question

i had to even brush and wash my teeth with the baby in my hand.

Answer 1

very little, after all he earned the money, and i was home, he would watch her a little while i tried to make meals.

Answer 2

Yes! Well thats when he's home. He has a VERY demanding job but when his home he helps me when I need it. When he has a day off some times he takes care of our daughter while I sleep in. But still I do most of the hard work with our child and around the house. If this question was .. Stay At Home Moms .. does your hubby help you with the house work?? then my answer would be NO .. I wish he did! :D

Some times men feel as if .. I'm bring home the bacon so I don't have to help with the kids .. that is the WRONG way of thinking .. maybe they don't have to do as much with the kids but they should atleast help .. they helped you make them just as much as you did :)

Staying at home with kids is a HARD job and no one seems to understand that! Every one thinks .. it must be great staying at home and eating bon bon's ... HA!! If only they knew!!

Stay strong ... sit down and talk to your hubby about .. he needs to ATLEAST do alittle with the kids ... like watch them while your taking a shower, or brushing your eat .. putting on your makeup .. etc .. explain it to him ...& hopefully (I'll keep my fingers crossed) he'll understand :)

Answer 3

Ok, this may sound like I'm a total B I, but I assure you that I'm not!!

I was a stay at home mom for a long time and didn't ask much from my husband cause he made the money, but then I started working and things didn't change. I got so fed up with it one day that I told him that I'm going on strike. I make the money too now, so why shouldn't we share the kid duties? So everytime the kids came to me for something, I sent them to daddy. Once he got a taste of what I go through everyday, he apologized and started helping me out with a few things. I still do most of the kid duties, but atleast I get a break from one or two things during the day.

Answer 4

He helps out a little. He's usually the one making dinner because I'm not much of a cook and he is. But I'm the one doing most of the housecleaning, I change diapers, I give baths, I make sure she eats, etc etc etc. He helped more when she was littler, actually. He plays with her a lot more since she learned to walk and talk but actual helping out (as in diapers and baths) nope. I'm also the one who dresses her and puts her to bed and reads to her and all the other stuff you do with babies and toddlers. I don't really mind though. After all he pays all the bills and our daughter is pretty good. And if she needs to be yelled at for doing something she isn't supposed to do, he's the one to do it because I feel bad if I do it. And if she's sick or he sees I need a little time to myself he steps in and helps. It sometimes gets a little boring being a stay-at-home mom but I feel that my daughter and I have a really close relationship and that makes everything worth it-especially when she says I love you. : )

Answer 5

Yes, he helps. Dad is a parent too, ya know? I do the majority of the work, but he isn't afraid to change a diaper. He helps with baths every third time or so. He puts them to bed about once a week. He stays home with them so I can go out by myself at least once a week. Now, he doesn't help with the housework much, but he will do SOME things once in a while.

Answer 6

When I was a stay at home mom, my husband would be home by 4:30. Once he was home he took over taking care of the kids while I did things around the house. I was lucky he never complained about having to take care of the kids after being at work all day because he understood what it took for me to take care of them all day.

Answer 7

My husband and I have a routine where he takes care of our son on Sunday and I get to sleep in, and I take care of our son on Saturday and he sleeps in. On the weekdays, he wakes up with our son and gets him ready while I get ready for work (whether you stay at home or go to an actual job he should do this for you if you wake around the same time). On weeknights, we do things as a family unless I have to run out for an errand or my hubby has to work late. Honestly, it takes a man and a woman to make a baby and to raise and care for it...my husband is not a "saint" like his mother makes him out to be for doing this but a "true father" taking care of his son. We all need a little time during the day to do something for us even if we have kids.

Answer 8

Was married 23 yrs...now peacefully divorced 4 yrs....we have three kids together ages now 14, 17 and 20. I was a stay at home mom up until this past year. During my marriage he rarely helped taking care of our kids.

His thought was . . . He works, tends to the yard, house fixing projects. I raised the kids, cooked, cleaned, ran errands, shopping, packed for vacations, school volunteer, driving to sports practices, games, got them ready in mornings, in bed at night, read to them, etc. 6:00 a.m. till 9:00 (or later) in evening.

I realize I was at home during the day and enjoyed staying home to raise my own kids . . . Yet, his day began at 8:00 and ended at 6:00, him always being home at 6:30 and on weekends. My day did not begin at 8:00 or end at 5:00. I did not get weekends off. I love my kids dearly and feel blessed raising them...yet while they were younger, and then some, I had little to no time off...he did...I would have liked it if he recognized it more. I did speak to him of this...still no help.

That was then...today is now and all is right as it should be. Yet, in answer to your question...No, he did not help out with the care of the kids.
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Answer 9

Nope, I still have to beg for help with diaper changings and feedings and she is 21 months old. When she was new born he barely even held her. Now I am pregnant with my 2nd and I dread doing everything myself so he can go to work then come home and sit on his butt while I cater to the whole dang family. Sorry but this is a personal issue with me. I do everything in my home and don't get a day off, he works Mon-Thur and the rest of the days he sits home doing nothing. I am home all day every day with no car to go anywhere (I live close to a park but it is too cold to go out) and he wonders why I don't want to be home all the time. I am going stir crazy and sick of playing super mom. Umm was that too much?

Answer 10

Nope, never did. When my 5 year old was born, I had to come home the next day cos he was losing his mind trying to care for the other two and discipline, feed, bathe, go to work, pick up and drop from daycare................... : 0. So.............. now I have 3 children, 9, 7 and 5 and he still doesn't. He reasons that I'm a stay at home mum, so I should be able to get all my work done in about 15 hours per week, you know, like 3 hours a day to do everything that needs doing and then I've got 21 hours per day free time !!! I'm positive men are really from Mars. By the way, this theory holds true even if I'm sick.

Basically, he will come home from work every night and just park himself with a book or kick back and watch T.V. My complaint is more that as a mum looking after 3 children, oops 4 children including hubby, when do I get time off??? I mean, their jobs start about 7.30 - 8.00a.m. and finish around 6.00. Mine goes 24/7, so whats the go................................


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PEACE

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*********** It's nuts sometimes, isn't it, the way they behave. My husband will think nothing of pointing at things that are lying around on the floor, like toys and discarded drink cups etc. and say stuff like, "..........I'll get you to just quickly pick that one up if you can, oh and do you mind me make me a coffee?"

Priceless, meantime, the guilty item will be just a few feet from him and I've got my work cut out with 2 kids fighting and the other wanting wotever....................... My answer??? When I've really had a rotten hard day. "Mate, do have a bone in your arm?? Guess what, I think you should use it and do it yourself. That's what God gave them to you for!!" Remarks like these, even though somewhat bit*hy and nasty, apparently work. Just this morning I woke a bit late at 7.00a.m. to find my man had ironed his work shirt and all three of my children's school uniforms for the day ahead !!! WOW!!! Could have knocked me over with a feather. Not only that, he had also made the two boys vegemite toast and then tonight he did the dishes and cleaned up the kitchen !!! They know wot they're doing girls, they just push it as far as they can. Like lets get honest, we aren't the dogsbodies now are we? Let's all stand up for ourselves and just spit the dummie every so often......... hehehehe.......... no swearing though when you snap at them, that wrecks it............ : 0 )

PEACE

Answer 11

Yes he did help when my daughter was born. He's a very big and tall man with a small heart.He gave me a brake when he came home in the afternoons. My daughter had colic from day one and she was a 24/7 job, crying constantly. He bathed and fed her . Changing a nappy was no problem to him.
He even like playing with her, and putting her to sleep. All men doesn't react the same as mine,some is to scared to touch a baby in fear that they might drop them.Talk to your hubby about it.