my ex-boyfriend for six years is still texting me and calling me, he wanted to see me, i already have my boyfriend for 2 months who happens to be in canada now for work..my boyfriend is an old flame since highschool and he is my soulmate.. i ditched my ex for my him. but i am torn between my present and past loves..i still have feelings for my ex but i still love my boyfriend..my ex texted me now and invited me for dinner..what should i do? help!..
2007-02-18 18:39:46 · 4 answers · asked by marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow! i feel bad for u cuz u r probably so torn up inside...
u have to think this whole thing over, (u can try to go walking or jogging - it helps u think better when u r out and not focusing on anything special like a room etc)
ask your self a list of questions:
1. why did u brake up with your ex?
2. the reason that u broke up, does it still exist? and if yes does it bother u to the point that if u did get back together, would u brake up in three months from now (just think of all the hard feelings that it would bring)
3. y do u like this old flame of yours? does he really have all the gr8 qualities that u want in a boy friend?
then u sit a nd make a list - can be just in your mind, of pros and cons for each of these men, and now try to decide what is it YOU want in a boy friend and then you can make a decision.
but please don't tell this ex that you'll go out until you have figured all this out, there is nothing wrong with saying that "i need time to think about it" he knows u r with someone else right now and he's trying to win u back, and it's gr8 to be loved by a man let alone two, but if u don't play your cards right u might lose them both.
just remember to think what will make YOU happiest, and go with your heart.
good luck
2007-02-18 18:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're unlikely to love my answer, yet right here that's: do your self (and paradoxically her too) a favour and circulate on. Who is conscious how long her emotions will proceed to be "unresolved" and in all that element, you will need this abusive third occasion lurking on the outer edge of your relationship, undermining it each 2d of daily. that may no longer a relationship. on the 2d, you're in a relationship, yet neither of you're satisfied, considering the fact which you're conscious that somebody is taking her remote from you and she or he's tousled ROYALLY and does not know what she needs. Make the determination for her. tell her you're actually not mad at her (whether you're, the final ingredient you prefer to do is provide her ammunition to ***** approximately you as moody once you're separated), yet which you think of that is unfair on the two one in each of you to proceed the relationship jointly as there is this situation striking over your heads. Then as that is her apartment, circulate out your self and do your appropriate to place it on your concepts as "over". Then save your self busy to steer away from thinking approximately her. If she comes lower back and asks you to take her lower back then make advantageous she's resolved her limbo over her ex and that she's additionally stopped chatting with him in the past making your determination.
2016-11-23 18:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So the first time your guy is gone you think about seeing someone who didn't work out before? You need to stay single while you decide what you want out of life. When you have something to share, THEN you can find someone to share it with.
2007-02-18 18:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex for a reason.
2007-02-18 18:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋