I cheated on my husband in our 2nd year of marriage. We're going into our eighth. I chose to tell him the truth. I believed he deserved the right to choose whether he wanted to stay or go. Yet he still throws it in my face. He says that I have to help him to get over it. I've been faithful from then on. I've given him NO doubt. I've been a loving wife and mother. Is their something more that I should do?
2007-02-18 18:14:48 · 10 answers · asked by marci w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no, I didn't mean to cheat. He was a close, old friend. My husband and I had a rocky start.He quit his job. He went fishing all day, or slept. He left me to totally take care of our newborn. I see now that he was depressed. I only wanted someone to talk to. To pay me a little attention. Still, not an excause.
2007-02-18 19:55:10 · update #1
I also wanted to thank you all for your opinions, advise, and insight! God bless!
2007-02-18 19:57:39 · update #2
In a couple mistakes are never exclusivity of just one. When men leave their wives without attention, under moral pressure and go fishing, well, you´re not made of iron and in situations like these it´s rather possible that an old friend is going to tell you what you want to hear. i believe you love him and that the reasons for you to to do what you did were in a conext, you´re not the "cheating" type.
Of course he´s angry, it took you 6 years to be honest with him. There´s nothing else you can do, but the most important thing is , first of all , being honest with yourself, and that´s already done, so there´s nothing to fear from now on. You´ve learned your lesson, you know what´s right and wrong, you did a mistake, and now you´re ready to move on. Don´t be afraid.
If he loves you he´ll forgive you, just give him some time.
2007-02-19 00:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Juliana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like y'all might benefit from marriage counselling. Tell your husband his options are to forgive you and stay or separate, but you can't live walking on eggshells. If it was a onetime thing, you should not have told him, all that does is purge your own guilt while laying a burdon on him. (I'm just saying that for anyone else out there in the same predicament.)
2007-02-19 02:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you flip this around, you can't really blame him. He does not know how to deal with these trust issues....The only thing you can do is to seek help, and for both of you to seek counseling..
I'm sure that after that he will start to trust you
2007-02-19 02:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by diamond_moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should see a marriage counselor with your husband..it may be more than just the cheating that he has a problem with
2007-02-19 02:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by lata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he simply cant. It's hard to imagine your loved one with another. It's a stabbing pain, that never heals fully.
2007-02-19 02:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you cheated 6 years ago....he should get over it and forgive you by now. you need to learn to trust eachother. try to make it work and comunicate. if that doesn't work, move on.
2007-02-19 02:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm,im sorry to say,but im on his side.do something luving.help hime forgive you.o,and havea question,did you mean to cheat on him>???
2007-02-19 02:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Polka Dots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say tis gal... but y is it so hard to be faithful???can u imagine how hurting it'll be for him
2007-02-19 02:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by HeaD_BanG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he better start trusting you alittle bit more
2007-02-19 02:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by Drawing 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
what you've been doing now is more then enough..if he not appreciate it he must be crazy..
2007-02-19 02:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by nas_haimeko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋