Should i meet him?

Question

I met a guy on the internet in Dec. He found me through myspace. We have been talking the last few days and he wants to meet. He moved to where I live, like 5 minutes away. Im not a stalker, but i did check into some things that he told me. For example i did a people search on him and his family to make sure he is legit. And he told me that his family owns a body shop, and that was legit too. Everything so far seems to be the truth. so what I am worried about are things that cant be looked up on the internet, i.e. personality and behavior. I have never done this before, so its new to me. Also, if I decide to meet him I will take my older brother with me. It just seems too good to be true that he likes alot of the things that i do. When i asked questions, he always answered first. So it wasnt like he was just agreeing with me. So what do u think? Should I meet him?

I'm 19 and He's 21.

Answer 1

Meeting people that you have met online, and suddenly meeting them in person, can be DANGEROUS. That is good that you are bringing someone along...you also should meet in a public place where there are a lot of people. Be careful.

Answer 2

First of all are you a minor? If so, I don't think you should be meeting this person. I hope you did not tell him where you live. And I would be very suspicious if he is considerably older than you. And you say he moved to where you live? Why? always be questioning what he does and says.

If you are a consenting adult, internet dating is commonplace now. It has replaced the old standard of meeting in bars and night clubs.

You need to use some commonsense. Do not tell this person where you live, and drive your own car to meet him for a coffee date, not a dinner date, etc. Keep the date to a maximum of 2 hours if things are going well. You need to listen to your instincts. Always go with your gut feelings. If you have any uneasiness with this person, DO NOT ARRANGE TO MEET HIM AGAIN. There is nothing wrong with saying, "I'm sorry, but there does not seem to me that we have enough in common to meet again." Or something to that effect. A coffee date is like a job interview, he is checking you out, you are checking him out. You are not obligated to stay more than 5 minutes if you do not feel good about it.

You can also arrange to meet him at a designated place for a second meeting if you are still not sure about him.

Your saying that you will take your older brother indicates to me that you are either a minor, or have led a sheltered life. Not that there is anything wrong with having been sheltered, it beats being "street smart" like a lot of other young singles today. But you also need to be smart about your decisions in this matter. I think that maybe your brother should check him out, go to the body shop and ask a few questions. Especially if you are young and inexperienced in dating.

Good luck and be careful!

Answer 3

If you are extremely careful, then maybe you should. But first, ask yourself a few questions.. Like, do you really want to meet him in person? Do you trust him? Are you interested in him? If you do meet him with your brother, make sure that your older brother stays with you until your meeting with him is over. Take lots of safety precautions, because you never know what will happen. I think you should meet somewhere, but then when you're ready to go home, make sure that he leaves to go home first, and make sure you don't accidentally give out where you live.

Since you met him in December, I think you shouldn't meet him just yet. It's only been 2 months. I would think that you probably don't know him that well yet. To be safe, I think you should wait it out until a few months. Just because he tells you that he likes a lot of things that you just happened to like, don't completely trust him because of that. Talk to him more, and if he has a webcam or something, ask him to use it so you know if he's for real or not (but make sure that you don't tell him that you don't trust him.. If you tell him that you don't trust him, he might try harder to make you trust him for no good reason).

Be careful with who you talk/meet on the internet....remember those stupid online predators who have nothing to do but ruin people's lives.

Answer 4

If u feel ready and he want to. And that he don't mind that ur older brother goes with u to meet him for the first time then u should do it. I have meet some guys from the internet before and it went alright. I know there are some bad storys of people meet some bad guys. But urs guy seem nice and I think everything would work out. I would meet him.

Answer 5

Yeah make sure you take your brother or someone safe. And you'll always meet weirdos on the internet cuz that's where they can hide without actually going out to meet people face to face. Good luck.

Answer 6

well my cousin met her boyfriend on myspace and now they are moving into a place together so for them it worked but I have met guys on myspace that seem to just assume your gonna have sex with them. so meet up in a publis place like a mall or something maybe even ask if he's will to double date and have a friend join. But don't do anything you are NOT comfortable doing!

Answer 7

Take someone else with you. I met my boyfriend online and we are now having a baby and getting married. Talk on the phone get to know him as much as possible and make sure to take your older brother with you!! Good luck!

Answer 8

i would say no if you wanted to use your brain but yes if u were to use your heart it all depends on how much u like him. There are so many things he could be trying to do. if you go defiantyl bring your brother be very careful and dont trust him

Lastly remember this saying "If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is"

Answer 9

You should meet him, but take precautions. Definitely take your brother with you. Many people lie on those websites. I have friends who are married and have children and are on there claiming they are single and hitting on other people. Just be cautious.

Answer 10

No-one can really tell you yes or no to this. BUT as a mom, I will ASK you, if you do go and meet with him, PLEASE do not go alone! There are just to many weirdos out there. I realize that there are some wonderful people out there, but you just have to protect yourself.