what would you have done if this happened to u?

Question

my goddaughter is catholic. i was raised catholic but not practicing. she chose me to be her sponser for her confirmation. i needed to get a document signed by a priest stating that i was a person of 'good character'. i talk to a priest who is informed of my situation, looks at the paper and says 'so u want me to sign this so we both can be liars?' then he proceeds to chastise me, prejudge me and make assumptions of what he thinks of me as a person. he asked me questions about my personal life, girlfriend, living situation (do u live with her are u gonna marry her, etc.) and then he made assumptions about that.so i started telling him lies about that since i figured he wouldnt believe what i said anyway. i get ripped for about 10 minutes...felt like hrs though. i let him say what he wanted out of respect for his position and where we were at. he did say he would sign the document if i came back tommorow had another talk with him and become a 'man of honor'
i didnt go back. would u?

Answer 1

so your god daughter is like 9 years old. right? well, that's an excellent age for her to start forming questions concerning the religious conditioning she is currently undergoing. tell her the truth. tell her the priest doesn't think you're good enough to be her sponsor and tell her the reasons the priest gave for finding your character unworthy. then tell her that you're sorry that her religion judges you unworthy but you won't grovel for the approval of the priest. you might find yourself engaged in a deep theological discussion with your god daughter and it might be good for you both.

Answer 2

I would not have put my goddaughter in that position. If I knew that I was not within the perimeters of what the position stood for, I would have told her the situation and asked her to get someone else. Explain to her that it is not that you would not do it, it is just the circumstances are not right. One day will come when she will fully understand what you have done and that could potentially make her question some things in life. I am not a saint by any stretch of the imagination but I try to do what is right. May God Bless U.

Answer 3

I would have asked him if he believed in forgiveness. If he believed that we should treat our neighbors as ourselves. Tell him that you don't need his crap, your doing this for your god daughter not for yourself. Don't let some self righteous priest make you look bad in her eyes. I wouldn't have put up with it in the first place though. He sounds like a real class act, and that is a great way to bring someone back to the church. Im not a Catholic, and can't approve of the things that you are doing, but I have faults too. I am however a Christian and if we can't forgive others how can we expect forgiveness.

Answer 4

Personally, I don't think anyone has a right to judge another unless they personally do something to them. The Priest should have just kept his mouth shut. He had no right digging into your personal life like that. You should have asked him "What is this, a screening for the position of defending our president?". I happen to be a woman who speaks her mind, and that priest would have gotten a real earful. Or, you should have asked him if he's been alone with any children lately. That would have shut his trap.

Answer 5

oh man you've got some character, let me tell you. While I wouldn't have laid a finger on him, because I don't believe in hitting girls, I would give him such a verbal lashing he would have had MARKS on him.

I would just go to a different priest, one who's head wasn't shoved so far up his ***. Pfft, you did good not to go back. You can't really be a 'man of honor' if the entire time you're thinkin of thrashin the priest infront of you, can ya?

Answer 6

I would have gone back for the sake of my G-ddaughter. Are you really that selfconcious about being berated by a self appointed judge of your character. It seems to me that the whole situation was a bit surreal to begin with. All control freaks beg to be lied to anyway, so why not give the poor man what he wanted for the sake of your G-ddaughters happiness. You were bright enough to be offended, for me the next logical step would have been appeasement with humor.

Answer 7

Well I wouldn't have as far as to sponser somebody if I had to go through that rigamerol. I probably would lie to him in the first place. Get the signature and laugh my *** off at the whole ******* institution. In your sitiuation spacifically, I would have taken the chastisment as you did and then got the signature but not gone back.

Answer 8

I would not go back. I also would decline my goddaughter's request to be her sponsor. That is a job for a religious person.
The statement you needed signed wasn't to prove that you were of good character, it was to prove that you have been sufficiently brainwashed

Answer 9

wow... that really stinks for you.... did your goddaughter Know it would be like this?, did you tell her that happened?... I wouldn't try to make her feel guilty about it, I think her trust in you is what matters to her the most, not some guy in a cloak downgrading you, your emotions, and your life.

From the sound of it, your goddaughter obviously trusts you enough, I would do it for her sake, not this guy...

Answer 10

I not only would not have gone back, I would have showed my goddaughter in the Bible why this priest was obviously not following Christ and tried to help her see that this religion was not based on Bible truth.