how do you control it?

Question

I’m not crazy and I know I need anger management but it feels like I’m crawling out of my skin and I feeling rage every day and not just normal rage like your kicking the crap out of everyone and you just want to keep going rage can any one help me please??

Answer 1

I feel rage like that when I get mad at certain things. It wells up in me and my face gets hot and I feel like I am going to explode. I wish I had a punching bag. I am in therapy..it helps. But If you try to breath and stop yourself you may have a chance.

Answer 2

My advice is to find something like sports or working out to help you get all anger out. Take the anger you have and put into other things instead of people. As for me I play baseball and workout which really helps get all the pressure and frustration. Sometimes even listening to certain types of music can even help. Usually if i'm mad i'll listen to something with screaming in and go to the gym and just hit a heavy bag until i can move my arms. So those are just some things that help me. I hope that you can something that you do to help you.

Answer 3

You could have a medical condition causing your rage (like bipolar disorder, etc.) In any case you need to call and make an appointment with a psychriatrist or get an appointment with your regular doctor and get him to refer you to someone (maybe a psychologist and/or psychriatrist). Don't delay. The rage could get the best of you and it can cause heart problems, high blood pressure and numerous other health conditions. There is nothing to be ashamed about when you need help. Do it!

Answer 4

Maybe something deep down inside is really getting to you. It might be a pain and your body uses anger to mask it. I know when there is something bothering me and I dont address it, it usually comes out after i have thrown something or broken it. If you dont have anyone to trust with your issues get some therapy. Talk the crap out and learn how to calm things down.

Answer 5

You need some therapy and meds...you are out of control and it's gonna lead you down the wrong path...get some help please before something terrible happens.

Answer 6

Anger is a natural human emotion. While it is completely acceptable to feel angry, destroying things as a result of that anger is not acceptable or healthy. You are talking about degree - becoming so angry that you want to destroy something. The difference is feeling anger and choosing how to manage it. Here are some suggestions:

(1) Express your anger
Expressing your anger can take different forms depending on if your anger involves another person, or if it is in response to a problem you encounter alone. When you become angry at another person, the key to expressing your anger healthfully is to do so assertively but not aggressively. Being assertive means being able to express your needs or wants, while being respectful of others and their needs or wants. It is different from aggression, which can mean being pushy, demanding, or even physically threatening. If you are alone, and get angry because your computer shuts down in the middle of a long paper, you can express your anger verbally instead of physically. Yelling at your computer won't hurt your computer's feelings, but smashing the keyboard will (maybe not its feelings, but certainly its functioning).

(2) Sublimate your anger
The goal in sublimating your anger is to change that angry energy into something productive. For example, if you get frustrated while trying to figure out a difficult math problem, you can use the energy from your anger to redouble your efforts by focusing more carefully.

Sublimating your anger is different from suppressing your anger. Suppressing your anger involves denying it and not acknowledging your feelings. Suppressed anger can turn inwards, leaving you unhappy, passive-aggressive, or even physically unwell. It is much more powerful and productive to use your anger in constructive behavior, such as problem solving.

(3) Calm your anger
You can learn to calm yourself when you feel angry. Numerous workshops, seminars, books, articles in magazines, and even friends have strategies that work for them. Calming down affects external behavior and internal feelings, as well as controlling those physiological responses your body produces when you feel angry, such as increased heart rate and blood pressure.

One effective way to calm yourself is to practice deep breathing, taking deep breaths with your diaphragm and stomach. While it sounds simple, the effect of calm, correct breathing can be quite substantial. Rhythmic, slow breaths will slow your heart rate and relax your tensed muscles.

Relaxing imagery or words can help you calm down. You can use a memory of an actual relaxing scene where you have been, or a place created by your imagination. You might also want to try using yoga or progressive muscle relaxation (PMR) technique to de-stress your tensed-up muscles.

It's important to prevent your anger from getting out of control. If your hectic schedule and numerous demands made by family, friends, and/or your professional life cause you to get angry, make sure to find time for relaxing and focusing on yourself. Sometimes you can change your expectations of situations and people in your life to help "redefine" your anger.

To help you in those cases where the anger isn't avoidable, you can focus on reacting less impulsively. Anger often leads people to react impulsively in ways that they end up regretting later. It's helpful to stop and remind yourself that getting angry won't fix whatever it is that made you angry and it won't make you feel better; in fact, it will make you feel worse. Stopping for a moment by counting to ten or taking yourself out of the situation even temporarily can be a big help in calming down. For example, when you feel like destroying something, count to ten and take a moment to realize that breaking that dish, or banging a hole in the wall, isn't going to leave you any closer to solving whatever made you angry. In fact, it'll leave you with a broken dish to clean up or a wall to repair. If you stop yourself and breathe, soothe yourself with one of these or other strategies, focus on problem solving and what steps you can take, or just evaluate more rationally the situation that made you angry in the first place, your energy is much better spent.

Answer 7

Talk to someone, whether it is a friend or a therapist.