ok me and my fiance are very young but we are starting a family together-i have a son and am pregnant with another baby. of course things have been hard. My fiance is having a hard time with jobs. we broke up for like a week and my whole family ended up getting into it. now everyone in my family is giving him a hard time...they make it out like everything is his fault.....everything! and its getting really hard because i am 8 months pregnant and stuck in the middle of this nit picking and its stressful! what should i do?
2007-02-18 17:22:16 · 11 answers · asked by n&z-mama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
o i guess i should of added that we have barely any money and i am living in a home my dad owns and paying no bills at all
2007-02-18 18:14:43 · update #1
o and my first son is not his......i made a big mistake when i was young and thats where he came from.
2007-02-18 18:20:16 · update #2
Stick with your fiance. Ignore friends, family... They can have there opinion's, but they don't know the full story only yourself and your fiance knows that. Your family should try to respect that you both are trying. If they keep putting you in the middle say its my life, and you have to understand this.(perhaps you could stop talking to them 4 a while, if they keep interfering) Then your fiance perhaps will realize that you are trying to make a new family with him.
Good-luck and congrats :)
PS - ignore peoples pathetic comments...
2007-02-18 17:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Aussie_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stuck because you are making some really bad decisions. You are very fortunate that your parents are supporting you financially and maybe you should give them some room to be upset. They have a right. They must be so frustrated seeing you in this dilemma.
It will blow over because your baby is almost here. Once it comes thats where your family will begin to focus. Try to keep your relationship with your fiance relaxed. Explain to him that your children are the important thing and you rely on your family so a little bit of them coming down on the two of you is something you'll have to swallow until you both can live up to your own commitments.
2007-02-18 18:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mangomum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean you already started a family togeather and your fiance is not holding down a job to support the first child and he gets you pregnant again which means double the responsibilty both of you are at fault for this and your family loves you so they are taking it out on him. Think 2 babys 0 job he should have married you after the first one. Is he really going to or will you just be engaged that is why your family is mad b/c you did brake up for a week and they dont want you left high and dry.lol
2007-02-18 17:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell ur family that this is ur life, ur relationship, that it is him and u and not him and them or u and them or the 2 of u and them. It is ur family (him, u, ur children) and then them, bc u have to look after urself before u can look after other people. tell ur family that relationships are two way streets, there are two different people in it and that there are going to be problems, but if u can get through them then they are going to make ur relationship stronger and that they really need to stay out of it. i dont know why u broke up so i cant really help u but i do hope i helped.
Oh and as ur pregnant firstly congradulations and goodluck, but go pamper urself (it doesnt have to be anything big, pamper urself to a day off ur feet or something). ur doing a good job :)
2007-02-18 17:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by cndrll_1613 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away from your family... This way they will butt out of your personal business, which sounds like it's putting a strain on your relationship. At least do it for now until things get better situated. Listen, when you let your family in on your personal life, then you're inviting them to give their opinion on you or you relationship. Make sense?
2007-02-18 17:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by ask me ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 23:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by dusik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as tho you're both still very young, evidenced by your inability to fully support yourselves with a plan of some form. Only when you're both able to reach such accomplishment, and move out on your own together, will your family accept your relationship.
2007-02-18 18:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your family out of this, and you and your fiancee work on YOUR life together. True, you are under some pressure, but let your family know that you need their support, not their judgement.
2007-02-18 17:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by LisaLou 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here are some choices:
1. Move away with him and change your phone number.
2. call off the wedding
3. Tell them its your fault
4. Tell them to leave you and him alone.
2007-02-18 17:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still live with your family??? If you don't, tell them to shove it. They are your family, they should be supporting you, not causing you stress!
2007-02-18 17:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jane Doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋