Tonight is my friends 18th bday and we were all suppose 2 go 2 the club and out 2 eat after...a good 20 of us!..my dad tells me no...after my report card jus came in the mail with str8 "A's"...and i havent missed my 2am curfew ever!(that is a GOOD curfew)..everytime he picks these random days to say "no" to me he says its cuz "im tha father and i can say no" ok i understand but up until last year i've been afraid 2 ask my dad things because of his aggressive answers and him always telling me no.
Last year me and my bestfriend were suppose 2 go out with my bf and his friend (double date) i called my dad he said okay jus dont leave till i get home (this was at 6) he didnt come home til 9:30 and by then my bf got mad and left. I told my dad it was messed up (he was wal mart that whole time 10mins down the road) and he came back sayin "im the father i do what i want"...my friend and i were all dressed stuck layin in my room that night.
i mean what do you think..is it fair?
2007-02-18 17:11:31 · 21 answers · asked by Trina0840 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yeah i'm 16 and my dad is the same way. he raises his voice at me every now and then and says "i'm the parent here, and you're the child, i make all the decisions!!!" LoL...
2007-02-18 17:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That IS a good curfew. If it was my dad it would be 11pm if I was lucky. I think your dad is being very fair. He is teaching you that life is never perfect and even the best made plans can go wrong.
If you go against him he could change your curfew to 11 and that would be worse. Maybe your bf should realize that before he gets bent out of shape.
Yes, he is the dad and until you are no longer being supported by him, be glad that he loves you. Give him a hug around the neck for no reason at all and be happy you are no longer 16. Things are looking very nice for you from my point of view. Remember, Dad stays home when you go to college or get married....
2007-02-18 17:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Keep it Simple 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tonight is my friends 18th bday and we were all suppose 2 go 2 the club and out 2 eat after...a good 20 of us!..my dad tells me no...after my report card jus came in the mail with str8 "A's"...and i havent missed my 2am curfew ever!(that is a GOOD curfew)
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are you seeing what i'm seeing? there were 20 of you! not only that, but i've made straight A's my whole life, and my dad has been strict. no food after 8 or drinks with sugar, no friends over, dress as if you're going to church every day, don't date guys, can't hang out with friends...etc. i really don't feel pitty for anyone. after being under my dad's roof and knowing there are still many years to come until i can move out, i'm PERFECTLY fine. i've lived a good life, and i accept my dad's rules. not only that, but your curfew is 2 in the morning? some kids' curfews are 8 o'clock. you're pretty lucky. follow your dad's rules, b/c you only have one more year to live with him. i didn't mean for this to sound snotty, but you're very lucky. good luck!
2007-02-18 17:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you...I was a very rebelious teen. Now as a mother I know that your parents are always right. Sometimes if your parents say No, for what seems to be no good reason, they have one....it just may not be one they'd like to discuss with you. IE...I have a daughter who made a new friend this summer. Unfortunatley, I happend to know that the kids parents were trashy and her dad was a pervert. All things that a child do not pick up on like a full grown mom does. I always made up lies and excuses for her to not go over there because I didn't want to trash talk this kids parents. Some other issues I have had where I said no and it seemed like for no reason to her....I had no money (like you want to tell your kid "sorry honey...we barely have enough money for groceries!), the parents were filthy mouthed and drank, She acted irresponsible all week, I knew that "bad boys" would be there, I know that Susies kid got caught with drugs, and so on and so on. Parents know much more about what goes on in other peoples homes and out on the town than you would think!
2007-02-18 17:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by ac_arrowsmitheye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my dad. Except he won't even listen at all, he just says no, give you a long lecture after he's done screaming at you. Your dad is unfair, I say get amancipated....or just tell your dad how you feel, but if he really is like my dad don't, cause it's gonna hurt.
I think i know what you mean by aggresive answers, even if it's just yelling you can't help but feel unsafe. Obviously some people can't understand the situation you're in because your father doesn't sound like he knows best. he sounds stubborn. I don't know a solution, but you only have one year left to live under him. So wait.
2007-02-18 17:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very smart young girl if you get all straight a's and i think your dad should be very proud of you. I think you maybe need to let your dad know in a nice but serious way that you are getting older and are old enough to start making decisions for yourself. Your dad sounds very controlling. Where is your mum? I'm not sure what else to say but good luck.
2007-02-18 17:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by jimmychick78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may seem unfair and cruel but that's his way of holding on to you. Fathers can't show worry, it's like a law. He still exercises authority randomly because he knows in about a year you're pretty much a free woman. But on the other hand he may just be a control freak spreading his mayhem in his last days of your supervision. But as was said earlier, wait a year then you'll truly see unfairness.
2007-02-18 17:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have less than a year until you are 18 and legal. However, if you choose to remain in your dad's home, you will still need to follow his rules. If you don't like his rules, you will need to make enough money to move out on your own. Of course, you know this means any college or car money he might have been planning to give you will go out the window.
2007-02-18 17:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not fair at some point... if i were you try to chat with your dad and say things that hurts you of what you think is not fair.. if he is the father then he should better off understand. just open communication is good enough and prove him that he can trust you...
2007-02-18 17:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by firefox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't fair. But, unfortunately, this is what happens when you are underage and live with your family. When you graduate, you can do everything you want, so just sit back and chill for a while. Believe me, you may be aggravated, but as you get older, you will realize how petty this is.
2007-02-18 17:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont really think thats fair!!!
I mean I struggle with my parents on letting me do stuff
But whenever you turn 18 you dont need to ask anymore!!!
You can do what you want!!!!
I am waiting it out to!!!
Usually I just cry until I get it!!!
Not the best thing but it works
2007-02-18 17:18:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋