How do I approach a Baptist girl when I'm atheist?

Question

Currently we've just gotten acquainted and we study together. She does all the Christian camp stuff and is very conservative while I'm mostly indifferent. She hasn't asked about my religious beliefs or lack thereof. How strict are Baptist girls?

Answer 1

Just act organized, and she will assume that you are a Catholic.

Answer 2

I'm a Baptist guy. I would like to take this opportunity to say good luck. If she is a serious Baptist, as you discription says, she'll probably only date other Christians, more likely Baptists as well. I do, however, know girls that could care less... so tis all about how she sees dating. Just know. If it gets off the ground, she's still God's until the day she dies, and forever after that... don't push anything... and take the time, if you can find a Bible, to read 1 Corinthians chapter 13... It's a good guideline for relationships in general.

Answer 3

To be candid, I think it's a really bad idea, if you want to be in a relationship with her. You both need to share more than just studying together. What happens when you want to hang-out with her on Sundays & she has to be in church (or any other day of the week when she's at church)? Will you get upset if she invites you to church? She may be very active in church activities. If she's conservative, she's likely to be strict. Then there's her family, church community etc. They'll also be involved. It's not that church-goers are snobs of some sort, it's just that in ANY relationship, both people should have a wide variety of things they have in common, else the relationship is doomed. You could tell yourself that you'll undertand her needs, but truth is, that won't happen. At some point you'll get frustrated & turn elsewhere for somebody you can connect with.
If you just want to be friends with her, then i do not see a problem. She is less likely to turn you down, but may still keep you at a relative distance.
For now, i advice that you just get to know her for a longer time. Then you'll be able to find out for yourself. If she does turn you down, don't take it to heart. She'll probably be doing you both a service.

Answer 4

If her daddy has that great an impact on her, she'll in a well mannered way renounce from the activity after some conflict of perception and habit. If she's like another 15-sixteen year old female, she'll the two forget approximately approximately it, or be somewhat elated on the small hazard to rebellion somewhat. bypass forward and hire her in case you think of she's a great guy or woman.

Answer 5

If you're studying together, you don't need to be thinking about anything other than your studies right now. Save the romance for when you're ready to make a permanent commitment. Because with permanent commitments come children at a later point, and the raising of those children will include conflicts with religious upbringing. Even if there is a Baptist "age of reason" involved.

Answer 6

I am baptist. As Christians we are supposed to follow the bible. The bible tells us not to be unequally yoked. Which means that a christian should not be with an atheist. It never works. The beliefs are just to different. Maybe you could attempt to go to church with her and read the bible. Maybe you will change your mind. It has happened. If she is a true Christian she will not change her mind. Baptist girls arent always strict. They should be but not all are true Christians. If you dont think there is anyway that your mind can be changed then I would leave her alone for her sake.

Answer 7

Don't tell her you are atheist. Tell her you're searching or still undecided or haven't made your mind up. If you don't, that will shut you out quickly or when the parents find out they will probably end it.
I would guess she asked Jesus into her heart and believes the Bible as the infallible word of God. She believes she is "saved" and going to Heaven. She has probably been or is planning to be baptized in water by immersion as an expression of her faith. She is probably very strict and this is supported by her parents. As for her personal beliefs it's up to her- but I would guess no smoking, drinking, sex, swearing, tatoos, piercings and such.

Answer 8

If you like her, start with a quite dinner at a local resturant. Tkae things slow. I grew up in an christian church and when I met my husband, I started going to his church which is baptist. I can say I still have my beliefs and her has his, but we love each other, the fact that we grew up in two different religions does not bother us. But when it comes to certain issues like baptism's, we disagree. One thing is for sure, he never asked me to convert, i did it my self. Also it depends on her family, ask her questions about her family and their beliefs in the type of guy she can date, that may give u soem insight.

Answer 9

I don't know; why don't you ask God how to approach her? Baptist girls are just like any other human girl, they just have a belief in a forgiving God that offers them eternal life through their belief and trust in Him.

Having a religious faith does not make her any less human. It does not prevent her from making mistakes, especially when a boy is smooth talking her.

Treat her like you should any other girl. With respect!! If you just want in her pants leave her alone.

Answer 10

You do not have to give up your belief to keep a relationship. A religion usually does not have conflict with a non-believer. You may find that your belief can co-exist with hers. Just be honest when the question is asked.

Answer 11

Why don't you ask her this question. You can't stereotype a person by what church they attend. She could enlighten you better than any of us, as to what her beliefs are and how much she believes in them. Let me warn you though, if you are planning on trying to get her to come over to your way of thinking, she is much more enlightened than that, and it wont happen.Chances are, you will learn from her, things you never thought of on your own. Be open minded.