well... i love my boyfriend. however i think he is so clongy to his friends. like some times we go out and he will ask his friends to come along. i am not really close to his friends. and i think they are being very extra, in the sense that we cannot walk at our own pace and have to follow them. and its hard to be intimate with his friends around us. some times he would just walk off with his friends and leave me alone. which i find very irritating. how do i get him to spend more personal time with me and not cling to much to his friends?
2007-02-18 16:44:12 · 6 answers · asked by apple-licious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe he just likes the company of a large party... that's not necessarily a bad thing.. my boyfriend usually invites one or two of his friends to come along with us when we go out.. i dont really mind that much, its quite funny listening to what they have to say and sometimes his friends sort of walk of and leave us together to do what we do.. he does it coz i know he wants me to get to know his friends (i'm not non social.. just not that great with meeting new people... har har.) so MOST of the time we go out... like say we;re going to the city he invites his friends..
to places more.. romantic.. like say a dinner.. or the park, its only the two of us .. so may be take your boyfriend somewhere where he CANT take his friends... or easy enough, talk to him.. just tell him you want time with him.. dont worry about sounding conceited.. he's your boyfriend and you have everyright to tell him how feel..especially when its concering your relationship.. be open, dont hold it in because he might think ur fine with it and keep going with it.. tell him you want time with him alone sometimes and that you dont feel too comfortable with him leaving you when you're going out...
just come clean.. he SHOULD understand, if he doesnt, just let him spend time with his friends and wait till he's ready to spend more alone time with you.. or if its not too much for you, just go along with his friends and try to get closer =]... guys can take their time to grow up sometimes hehe
2007-02-18 16:55:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Sometimes", meaning not all the time?
You know, intimacy is for two, not a group outing, and you need to realize that. Maybe he feels that you are pushing him, and thats why he's gathering the group up...?
So...if time together alone is what you want, then just ask him over to your house, or ask him to go with you somewhere by yourselves, if he mentions the friends....tell him you only planned this for the two of you....
Maybe that will work...
2007-02-19 00:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him. you're his lady, therefore his buds shouldn't come before you. tell him that you think that the two of you need some alone time, b/c his friends are always with him. tell him you want him to spend time with his friends, but you want him to also spend time with you. next time he invites them to come eat dinner (before he does it, or whatever), just tell him that you want the night alone, b/c his friends always come along...and when he walks up and leaves you there to walk to his friends, come over there...and ask to talk to him. that is rude and disrespectful. he takes you out to eat. he shouldn't leave you to sit all by yourself. you just need to have a long talk with him, or consider seeing a counciler together. good luck!
2007-02-19 01:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you might love your boyfriend but if he's causing you so much stree then do something for yourself and let him go. obviously his priorities arent in order. if your not number one then there isnt any reason why he should be yours. as for the whole problem overall....if you dont want to break up with him, which i doubt you want to do, sit him down just the two of you and rip into him. sounds harsh i know but clearly he isnt getting the point. tell him what you want, dont be scared. if he's willing to hurt your feelings and irritate you, be willing to do the same to him. good luck and stand your ground!!!
2007-02-19 00:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by crazyskeeterboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to spend less time with his friends. maybe he's afraid something immoral will happen. talk to him about it. a big problem in alot of relationships is communication. just tell him what you think. he wont get offended.
2007-02-19 00:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by Love Doctor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him be him and find new friends.
2007-02-19 00:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋