When you lost someone in your life, what kind of pain did you experience?

Question

It seems that regardless of religion or belief system, we all share a commonality of humanity. I imagine animals feel some sorrow, but we humans are ......, well, we are special; and not just because of our opposible thumbs- so to say.

Without love, we would have no pain.

Without love, we would be robots. And, yet when I am in pain from missing someone, I curse love. And, then again, without love, I am nothing. -- and on and on. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

Answer 1

Depression. A state of unbelief that this happened. This is the sort of thing that happened to OTHER peope, NOT to me, NOT to my family (or so I thought.) I had hundreds of questions like: why? why did this have to happen? Why to (person's name/s)?? How? How can this be real? How could somrthing like this happen? The old saying "You don't know (appreciate) what you've got till it's gone" hit me big time! They are gone and I can't do anything about it. I'm helpless to change it. I'll miss them greatly. I wish I would have appreciated, talked to, and spent more time with them. Now I can't. Now it's over. How am I supposed to go on? --This is how I felt, and to some degree, still do. BUT I now realize that all things are in Gods hands. God knows all things...trust Him. The greatest comfort I have is in knowing that I WILL SEE THEM AGAIN !! It ISN'T over. The next time I see them will last FOREVER, millions and millions and millions of yeras. And that time everything will be perfect. No pain, no deformities, no depression, no regrets, no anger or disappointments. No such thing as war, death, accidents,rejection loneliness,etc. Love, R&R, peace and much much more will be the norn.. I can't envision going through something like this without faith. Faith in God. PS there are "grief partners/groups, gatherings" in many, many, places. Talk to friends..it helps. Talk to a minister. There is a good book "Why Do Bad Things Happen To Good People" that is helpful too. Best wishes and God Bless...

Answer 2

Social pressures bring about melancholy and whilst the melancholy gets extreme adequate, the psychotic experience whilst your innovations supplies up from the soreness of remembering. extreme melancholy soreness can purely be made via people who've been closest to you and at the instant are deceptive you in everyway obtainable. as a great way simply by fact the what's the least painful experience . properly it is going to 0 soreness and then it turns right into a satisfying experience on the different area of life. what's seen 0. properly what relatively doesnt worry you you may' choose for what there are doing except they enable you do it too or a minimum of coach you what they do without you understanding eh?

Answer 3

I have lost 4 important people in my life to death: my friend, my grandma, my adopted grandpa, and my great grandma.

The kind of pain that I experienced was just a sad pain. The most recent death was 2 years ago, the longest away was 10 years ago, and I still sometimes think about them and the sadness is still there, but it's not that bad anymore.

Answer 4

Not sure what you mean by "lost." Did someone pass away or just leave you. I guess in some ways it does not matter. You experience grief, anger (anger is always the easiest emotion) and acceptance. No matter why the loss occured, I promise, you will get through it. It is o.k. to have those feelings, just make sure you move on from them when you are ready. Hope this helps!

Answer 5

A feeling of loss because I know I can never share my happiness with him anymore and he will not be there with me in my hours of need. There was an unexplanable guilt because I have never shown him enough of the love that I have for him that could have made him happier with me

Answer 6

First came shock, then a kind of numbness......accepting that they were really gone is still difficult. The first stabbing, unbearable pain mercifully didn't last too long, and I found solace and comfort from my church family and from my belief in God and His promise of salvation. Still learning to cope with the pain stabs that seem to come from nowhere.....

Answer 7

Acutely the pain was an incapacitating agony and presently it is a deep empty feeling.
On the other hand, when I'm down or slacking I heard my friends voice pushing me to go ahead.

Answer 8

My ex told me that he felt a sudden blankness when his father passed away. His heart somehow felt void and he didn't know what to do next. Because before he was tending his father throughout his sickness.

Answer 9

hunni i lost my grandparents and my father when i was a teenager and i lost my 11 day old son Hunter to sids on nov 28.05 and nothing compared to that loss, my oldest daughter is still devasted as are we, though i am due to give birth in a few weeks, my sons loss is always on my mind

Answer 10

Emotional pain.