I live with my grandpa. My uncle lives here as well and i had an aunt who did live here but moved out because i got mad becuz she was telling me what to do. the reason i got mad with her tellin me what do is becuz she does drugs, doesn't have a job, is lazy and won't do anything for her self and hasn't since she was 19! (my grandpa told me all this).she won’t help with the house work either. one night i brought up how i was sick of her telling me what to do and sick of her hatin on me and she went insane (literally) she went on for 7 hours about how i was a worthless ***** and how i stole her room stuff and her family from her. she told my dad that she will never talk to me again, never do anything for me, and if someone says that i do something like her she will denie it. anyways my question is should i make amends with her becuz she is family or should i just let her do whatever it is she does?
2007-02-18 15:39:18 · 26 answers · asked by *~green eyez~* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dont let anyone walk all over you. Its ok to help people if you want but she sounds like a user and an abuser. You are not required to apologize unless you did something wrong to her. Stick up for yourself because in this life not many will stick up for you.
2007-02-18 19:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are both hurt and angry right now so I'd wait for things to settle down a bit first. You have to think about what she means to you and your family. If one day you feel like you can truly forgive her, then go talk to her and try to work it out. I think you should wait until you are thinking a bit clearer and she is too. If she's doing drugs it will be hard to get through to her. At some point make amends when you are ready to forgive and put it behind you. You are family and you may need each other one day.
2007-02-18 23:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of your aunt's drug problems, they are not in the right frame of mind, therefore accepting that the problem is her she needs to blame everyone else as she can not accept the real fact that she is the only one who made this choice and it is always easier to blame others then to blame yourself, I would leave it alone continue to live your life to the fullest and learn from her mistakes and dont allow her low self esteem to make you feel bad about yourself. It sounds a though you have a good head on your shoulders so dont let this incident with your aunt take over your life, move on and forgive her as she can not forgive herself
2007-02-18 17:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by googey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's her problem now, people let her do what she wants and nobody says anything. Since she moved out be glad she is no longer under the same roof. The family has just been enabling her and that is wrong. She needs help and she needs to hit bottom so that someday she will finally realize she needs help. Good luck
2007-02-18 15:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't get to choose your family. And friends are the family you choose yourself. It's not because someone has the same blood running thru their veins that they deserve your respect. That's something your aunt has to earn. And obviously, she hasn't. You should do whatever you feel right with. Listen to that little voice inside your heart (not the one inside your head!) And have you tried asking your uncle and grandad what they think? Has it oocured to you that they just might be really happy that she's not there anymore??? What is life like since she's gone? I get the feeling you'll answer that life is better....
2007-02-18 16:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is hard when it is family, but no one should be told that they are worthless. It is hard talking to someone who is affected by drugs. ... Lift up your head and walk proud. You are not worthless. You in yourself know who you are and what you know as the truth. Try to make amends, but not in a big showy way. Keep what you want to say short and to the point. Then just get on with your life. Sometimes people can't accept the truth about themselves and try to justify this by putting other people down. Walk tall in life.
2007-02-18 15:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by smc4u73 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her go. She had it cushy until you came along with a better example, so she's blaming things on you that are her own doing. When she finds out the rest of the world won't cater to her, she'll have to come home and behave, or straighten herself out where ever she ends up.
2007-02-18 17:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A family member with her background will be a bad influence on u anyway. Unless you want to make up with her inorder to seek help for her..i would say leave the matter as it is.
2007-02-18 15:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you stood up for yourself. You don't have to tolerate anyone's bad behavior, especially family. Your aunt needs to get some psychological and drug treatment for herself before she comes back home to live with you, your grandpa and your uncle.
2007-02-18 15:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by annazzz1966 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she overreacted but you also need to learn how to be a lot less rude. Imagine hearing from your niece that you're a lazy druggie.
How wonderful, eh? Even if it is true, it's not going to help anything. Say sorry, if you don't mean it. I mean, it's her own problem if she was a useless loser.
She should be the one on her kness begging to go back. How far can a useless druggie go on for by themselves?
2007-02-18 15:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋