am i right, that love and sex dont go together?

Question

that love and sex should not be seen as one,i think sex is just sex, it does not mean that if you do it , that you are in love,i think love is something deeper, greater
sex is just sex,so i dont really find the deeper connection with married couples whether they do it or not
i mean ,are you still in love if you are no longer having sex

Answer 1

sex and love are different but in a successful relationship, and when its really love, you have both, and they can be fantastic. Men and women are programmed differently, men want sex with the one they love to feel that closeness, women do it to feel that emotional connection, which is most important to a woman. You will know when its right and you will have both

Answer 2

Love and sex goes together but you have to know that sex is not every thing in a relationship. There is more to the relationship than that. Love is much deeper. You can have sex with any one and it doesn't mean that you are in love with someone. But when you are in love then sex is beautiful in the relationship and it does not mean you have to have sex with your partner every time you turn around, if you did that then you could never get anything else done or hold a job. I believe that you can still be in love even when the sex goes out in the relationship as you get older the flame does go out but the love for that person never leaves. Now this is just my thinking.

Answer 3

It goes perfectly in our relationship. I do agree that sex can be just sex. I have had things with guys and that's all we were in it for. The sex, no feelings. But since being in a solid relationship I have found that the sex is more intimate and personal and has meaning. You can be in love with someone and no longer have sex but it just means that the physical side of the relationship has broken down. There is no attraction. Love on another level I guess.

Answer 4

I think that when you are in love, sex is just that much better. You have this comfort zone when you are with someone you love. You aren't being judged! Love is deep and I think you can be married and in love without the physical aspect, but usually it isn't because sex is just sex. It is because there is a problem. You are right, that you don't have to be in love to have sex...and sex can be just a release. But, if you are in love and are able to have sex, then it is just that much more deeper!

Answer 5

I think that it depends on the situation. I am in love with my husband and we have a deeper connection when we make love as aposed to just sex. However, if for some reason something where to happen and we could no longer engage in making love then i would still love him.

Some people just have sex for the sake of sex and others mistake sex for intimacy or love. I think it really depends on the situation, you cant catergorize everyone so easily.

Answer 6

I think that sex can compliment love but when a couple has sex too soon, it can destroy a relationship. You have to lay the foundational elements of trust, respect and honesty. You have to really get to know the person and decide if you like them let alone love them. Sometimes when we get sexually involved too soon, we mistake love for lust and end up in something that wasn't solid to begin with. Sex in marriage is important to maintaining the bond and not allowing someone else to come in. Love is deeper than sex but sex without love is dead.

Answer 7

Well, you can't really be right or wrong. It's a subjective opinion, but I'd have to say I don't agree with you. I believe sex should only occur when there is love. Just seems like loveless sex creates a lot of problems, especially since most people at least say they believe love and sex go together. I guess it won't be a problem for you as long as you have partners who agree with your philosophy. If you get tangled up with someone who thinks differently, you could create a lot of a pain for someone and possibly yourself.

Answer 8

I think when you are dating sex is just sex. But if you are married, then you should have the deepest connection with that person, so sex isn't just sex anymore, it's deep too, just like a relationship that strong should be. It's something that helps bond 2 people in a beautiful way.

Answer 9

Depends on your beliefs. I think sex without love is empty and eventually you will tire of it and want a real connection. I think when you have sex with someone, you give them an important part of yourself. If you want to treat it that way, I'm sure you will be able to find willing partners. Check and see if you aren't just being brainwashed by "Sex and the City" or something. Honestly, I think this theory works better as a theory than a lifestyle. Don't be surprised if one day you regret having a buttload of meaningless sex that left you feeling hollow when you finally find someone who rocks your world. That someone may be hurt by your previous outlook on sex.

Answer 10

It's sad that people ,misinterpret and abuse sex nowadays. Sex is intended as an expression of love between two people within the institution of marriage. There is no better way to show your husband or wife how much you love them other than offering yourself to them ONLY as an expression of your love. When people sleep around, it cheapens the act and eventually when one gets married, it does not become special anymore. This is why people often ask your question.