Diagnosed w/ Borderline Personality Disorder in Sept 05. Also extemely prone to despression. I believe the BPD was result of a bad marriage, to a verbally abusive husband (though he loves me beyond life and is unaware of what he says...he is just stating 'truths' and trying to be "open"). I grew up with a verbally abusive (or was he just overtly strict?) father. In January, I went through devasting changes in my life and the BPD subsided, self-sontrol was easy. My therapist backed away & i don't know why, is it because i'm 'behaving' as such, so she feels she succeeded or is it because i made her think i didn't respect her (i was late and missed appts since jan, unintentionally). i've read about high functioning bpd, i was definitely low-functioning BPD until Jan. I read & try to be aware of my actions, so to understand my emotions more & not react, though that's always a job. Because i understand & feel "control", am i getting 'better'.?
2007-02-18 15:06:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
All I got from your question is that you accept that your husband verbally abuses you because he loves you & doesn't realize he's hurting you. And your father was too strict.
It sounds like you definitely have some issues and need a good therapist. I can relate to missing appointments, but it's good to call if you can't make it, even if it's 10 minutes before the appointment just to let them know you care that you're missing it.
Maybe you could try again with a different therapist if the same one doesn't want to see you again.
2007-02-18 15:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a VERY hard thing to ask people that do not know you. I have traits of BPD as well. It seems to be a tricky, confusing label. I am thinking that circumstances/life experiences can
lead to these personality traits (that we hate).
For the therapist, Unless you ask, send a note, call, email you may never know the truth. That is what an assertive person would do. Apologize where you need to. Make amends, restart or let go and find a new counselor to work with. Your needs are the reason you see the person.
You might try looking into your books, website and go by listing the problem areas that you feel you have improved on and how many you are working on currently. Using the text, Stop walking on eggshells or other books will help you identify traits that are less of a bother now.
Journals will help over time to see the changes.
Write if I can be any support for you.
2007-02-18 23:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by strong1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can get better, and that is wrong for a therapist to quit seeing you, or cut your sessions down with out telling you why, cause they are there to serve you and you are paying them. They should be telling you what they see, if they think you are getting better, so you should really call the therapist you were seeing and ask her why she backed away, cause you really have the right to know that, and it seems that it has become an issure that is really bothering you, so please call her, and get that part resolved, so you can have some peace of mind, and it does not tigger any other issues.
also being late is a sign of the disorder, so she should know that, so when you were late, she should not of taken it as you did it on purpose.
2007-02-18 23:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your therapist thinks that you're backing away from her by not coming to appointments.
I read a book called _I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality_ by Kreisman and Straus. It is written for laypeople and might be a good resource for you.
2007-02-18 23:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by amy02 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋